Whay I love open relationships (Analogy)

Open relationships are like going outside with your pet budgie, if your budgie wants to be with you, you do not need to take it outside in a cage. The budgie can be free to do as it pleases but it will remain by your side through free choice. It is a far more beautiful relationship (a non-open relationship agreement is like a cage).

I am seeing the most wonderful girl of my life at the moment. We are in an open relationship and we are two uncaged budgies fluttering in the wind side by side.

 

so u dont mind if she has thex with other pple?


beats me.

 

I would be okay with that although it hasn't happened yet, but i am free to do the same. It is not so much having sex with other people that makes open relationships so great, it is the freedom of knowing that if you did want to have sex with other people you could without hurting anyone.

 

yea, i dont get how pple can be in a relationship and not care if their significant others have thex with random pple.
so yea, to me, sayin it "wouldnt hurt anyone" is just like sayin u dont give a damn about your partner and they're just like any random person u meet..
thats my opinion tho

 

That is quite a good point. It all depends on the individuals involved. Like I said, there has been noone else during our open relationship yet, so I can not reliably say how it will affect either of us. All I know is that if we upgraded our relationship to exclusive partners some of the magic about being together even though we are free would be lost.

I guess you find the relationship that suits you best as an individual.

 

Open relationships tend to be a problem for many people, because usually the two people together don't agree on what constitutes "open". There are boundaries in relationships no matter how open they are, and it is necessary for both partied to communicate and agree mutually on the boundaries they set.

 

I like your thoughts about the bird- I've been thinking lately about how binding people can make a "boy/girlfriend" relationship, especially when they are younger- they feel compelled to go out to the movies and make out in the back row every friday night after school, only dance with each other at dances, etc, and it would be so much more beautiful if they did it out of free will, not because they felt they had to

 

This post actually made me think about...what 'is' an open relationship?..Like many others, there has got to be different kinds. Making me realize that I must be in one...well open meaning the less typical..unique, just a freeing kind of relationship.
I love how you discribed it..but Im not sure If i could ever have it in me to be ok with my partner sleeping with other people. I guess im just writing this in an effort to clarify whatever relationship im in..and again (thanks for your post)....My guy and I kind of just roll with it, we both know we are on eachothers path..we talk..send emails..but see eachother sometimes once every three or so weeks...I've never been in a relationship quite as long as this one or as open as this one..based on the philosophy 'what is what is'....Its laid back, and still keeps the freshness..of not having a 'routine' movie night. I've never met anyone who connects with me..and challenges me...untill I met who im with now. Having found 'this'..feeling..I totally appreciate open relationships, whatever level they are at. I think a lot of couples grow fed up with the whole thing..and lack of personal space can be really harmful to the whole communication system. Im only 18, but im loving each and every moment..continue on rolling with it openly. im happy for ya.