Hey guys, I know I am young but I am in a serious relationship and can use help, I also ALWAYS get really useful advice on here so after I've talked to friends and family about this issue, and no feedback, I am turning to you guys. A year ago, I dated a guy James, for a while. I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship and was really shaken up about it. I felt a huge connection with him. Though, We were both very shy people, and we didn't talk much. He also lives in a different town, so it was like a travel to go on dates where we would wouldnt talk much. I also fell for a close friend at the time, so I broke up with James and dated my new boyfriend, Connor, for almost a year now. Connor and I get along just fine. We don't have much in common, but we lost our virginity to each other and we do love eachother and care for eachother. We never fight. I am careful showing my very deep side to him though. We act more like kids together, and its fun and happy being with him. He makes me feel better, but I am never sure if its truly Him, or the physical affection that keeps us content with eachother. So my problem, I saw James at a party last weekend and for some reason we just started talking. We have a very strange connection to eachother where we feel the same about very deep topics, have the same out look on life, enjoy the same hobbies and music. I have never experienced this. Ever since he starting talking, I have been feeling extremely down. I love my current boyfriend dearly, hes like my security blanket who is always there for snuggling and talking to but isn't really helping me "grow up" within myself as a person. James seems like he would be the absolute perfect guy for me. I know he wants to date again, and though I just promised a friendship for now, he can kind of tell I want to date him as well. I am young, but I feel I have something special with my current boyfriend since we get along well and can care deeply about eachother. I think though, I could have something profoundly special with James but it scares me to risk my great relationship for it. I guess what I am really asking is, is it a risk to take? and should I just be content instead of chasing something I feel will be even better? Thank you VERY much to anyone who can give me ANY ideas/feedback. It's very much appreciated.
