I thought about this a lot lately and I figured I'd ask and see what you guys think. There's this girl that likes sex a lot. She's always up for it if you are. So when I first met her, she came right out with her hobby. So since I was a virgin, I was pretty intimidated by her. Anyhow, a few weeks go by and we start hanging out more and one day, we get back from the theatre and I pretty much whipped her ass in a pillow fight. So after that, we're sitting around and she knocks the shit out of me with a pillow because she's a cheap shotting punk, and climbs on top while I'm laying there. So I'm thinking "this is great I'm gonna get some", she starts putting her hand in my pants. I freaked and asked her to stop and she was cool with it but I could tell she got what us guys call 'blue balls' So we hang around a little while longer and she leaves because she's gotta go home. Then the stupid move I had just made starts to sink in. You know how when you're little you're always talking about it like its no prob, I couldn't understand what the fuck happened to me. Anyhow, about a month later, we're together again, we were joking around about pulling the car over and messing around or me sticking a finger in while she drives earlier, and she's on my kitchen counter when we get back with shots and no underwear. So I'm feeling more confortable around her by this time because we were together all the time. I walked over and she says which finger. So I picked the lucky right did it. Which was great cause she bites and it drives me insanely crazy. After she leaves, I started thinking about how I could do that with no problem, but I can't do what I really want. I'm pretty sure I'm going to be one the few guys that can't do it unless they feel something more. The problem is that she isn't like me. So my question is, is it ok for me to feel the way I do and not go for it? Or am I just a fucking vagina?
It sounds like she digs you man but if you just have butterflies or performance anxiety or something then just tell her you want to bang her but you are virgin and she may have to take the lead and play teacher. If she is as sexual as you make her sound then she will be cool with it.
I don't think I can tell how sexual she is. She's wild, man. I think that bothers me actually. I don't mean that its bad, its what she wants and I get it. But its not the girl I want. You know what I mean? But she said she'd take the lead. She likes to be dominate anyway. I know I'll regret it if I do it though so I guess I'm going to keep off of it. Thanks for the advice man. I thought for sure somebody was going to say some mean ass shit
We are nice like 90% of the time. I think it's great that your the kind of guy that needs some feeling there before you can have sex.
Wait to you meet a girl you actually like. I think virgins should lose their virginity together. It's more sweet that way. I didn't, I lost mine to someone who was really experienced and I felt super intimidated. It was not a good experience for me. But whatever, it's only one time and then it's over with
