I realize this may be the wrong forum for this topic, but I looked for a minute and couldn't find a better one....plus I figure I'd get more interesting answers from you guys. I have always been shy, especially when it comes to showing interest in guys. Even when I guy shows interest in me, I sort of give a nervous laugh and freeze up. This summer I was interested in a guy (and kind of got the idea he might be into me as well) and got a little advice from friends on ways to subtly flirt. I suppose it worked, but it literally took the whole summer. The guy and I ended up hooking up and that was because he was on the drunk side and very blunt. He told me that he had been flirting the whole summer, but I seemed for the most part pretty cool towards him, not giving him much of the idea that I liked him too. What are some "techniques" people use to show interest? Or just basic body language things that signal to the other person you are interested. I think I have a pretty bad fear of rejection (like most people) but I've never really put myself out there to be rejected. I'm 21 years old now and I figure that if I'm going to live the fun young adult lifestyle, I'm going to have to loosen up a bit when I go out and not shut myself out to guys I don't already know well. Any advice would be greatly appreciated By the way, it was just a hookup situation with the summer guy...it was fun but nothing more (and I'm completely fine with that lol), but now I'm kind of interested in a couple different guys who I don't see usually but once a week and would be more interested in the long term with, and the other who I see about that often as well but I'm just physically attracted to (if you get my gist). Thanks
Well I think the best way for a girl to flirt is to just be fun and interesting show you can hold a good conversation and show interest subtly such as asking him to go out for a drink with you some time it makes us men feel great to get asked
Aah, lol that makes my heart beat faster just thinking about the fear associated with asking a guy out for a drink lol. I have some experience with guys, but I went to a realllllly small high school and a pretty small college, so for a good part of my life, i've met people sort of though being forced to by close proximity and the amount of time we spent together. I'm not old fashioned, but I guess its nice to think that just by giving the right hints, the guy could ask me (I know....that's not fair) lol.
I'm from Houston (I see it says you are from there), but I go to school in Dallas. The school I went to in Houston was a VERY small conservative christian school (so boy-girl interactions were heavily restricted lol).
Good god leave it to the religious well when your back in town pm me oh and post some pics of yourself
Smile, laugh, imitate body language (imitate some of his movements in a subtle way), play with your hair, eye contact, physical contact (touch his hands, shoulders, face, etc.)
Okay, I have some insight, though it may be a bit harsh. You are a woman, and aside from the unlikely chance that you're drastically un-attractive, you mostly HAVE YOUR PICK, since MOST men seem to be existing in a paradigm of scarcity towards sex. So you're a woman, accept that and take advantage of it. You have a fear of rejection!? I feel, as a man, an unbalance in the scales, and that you needn't fear rejection since only through that fear are you likely to be rejected. Just my opinion! Joshua
If I'm one on one with a girl then just as soon as I think "WOW, she is beautiful" I'll stop her mid sentence, look her right in the eyes and compliment her. I'll then continue the conversation nonchalantly or ask her to continue, but I wont break eye contact. If this is done with conversational grace and without too much fawning, then it has a great impact. Also, in my experience when a girl says anything about any of the following topics with humor or relative ease then she likes you(or she is toying with you)... -sex partners, sex positions, sexually transmitted diseases, sex toys, kama sutra -beds/showers -contraceptives -vaginas or penises, or any other erotic part of the human anatomy -gay sex -her favorite drink, favorite food, favorite bar/restaurant however the flaw in my logic is that i'm pretty much the shiznit and I have kind of a big ego. i'll take just about anything, even aggression, as a sign of attraction.
