Becoming yourself

true dat

 

I just learned how to have fun by myself... and thinking alot... I'm just open to accepting if I can't change my negatives but loving me for my positives and learning to not care what people think... this didn't come till my Jr year in high school and that's b/c I did a bunch of psychology

 

I have problems meditating too, in fact, just the other day i had what i consider my first real meditation. BUT, just the act of being still, breathing, and thinking about good and bad energy flowing in and out of my body helped, even though i was thinking about a million things at the same time... also look up some guided meditations... those help because you already have an idea to focus on instead of just trying to blank your mind out, that doesnt work for me, an empty mind is a scary thing for me.... if you would like some of the guided mediations pm me i have some good ones. But really, sounds like you are off to a good start, congrats... keep it up! I ruined a five year relationship becaues i forgot who i was, i did everything i could to make his life perfect, and then he kicked me out of it, and i was so lost.... taken along time to dig through the rubble. Don't put yourself in that postion, no matter how much you love someone you always have to love yourself a little more... i know that sounds selfish, but its not. I wish the best for you.

 

While I'm still trying to become myself, find myself, like myself...

I so far do it by not dating or committing myself to someone else. I need time for me. To be alone at home (as much as it scares me) and to stay in by myself on a Saturday night. I let myself feel my emotions. I grasp them and accept them and feel them (As hard as it is). I let myself be. But I guess the main thing is, I spend LOTS of time alone. Because how else can you find that person unless you are alone with her?

 

i just re read this and this has to be one of my favorite advice threads.

 

So, do you like yourself better this year?

 

yes actually

 

That's great to hear.

 

good to hear

i was going to reply to this thread but saw that it had already been done

 

thanks lol. i still have more searching to do and becoming content with everything before i try to take the plunge into acid though. its no biggy. i have the rest of my life to try it