Heres my story...There is this guy back home(michigan) that i used to be really good friends with..or so i thought...i have known him for a long time...we have a good and bad history together..when we were younger i took a lot of emtional abuse from him, but forgave and forgot and moved passed it, and just concentrated on friendship..anyways..We use to keep in touch, but most of the time when we talked i was the one to call...but we talked a lot on messenger...then one day i told my husband a story about him and he didnt think we should talk anymore, even though it happened like 3 years prior...so i quit making an effort...of course he didnt really try to contact me...but i missed knowing what was going on in his life..so i ask my husband if i could talk to him if it was that big of a deal, because he also had been a really good friend when i needed him...but i still didnt call him up...well...i got online the other day and we talked and he didnt have my number all this time...so i gave it to him and he said he would call....he didnt..and that is my biggest pet peave ever, saying you will call and then dont...i was really looking forward to catching up with him..because i have no guy friends down here, or back home really anymore because for some reason guys dont want to hang out with a married woman..and i get a long with them better then women..and he has always understanded me, but i dont want to always be the one to make an effort..so should i give in and call...or see if he does anything to keep in touch?
I was afraid of that..I get carried away sometimes..Basically its an old friend who said he would call but didnt, now should i call to make the effort to keep in touch
Something that seemed so complicated all of a sudden made so simple...Sometimes i wish i thought like men..they dont complicate things
I would take your husbands advice seeing how he knows the situation and obviously cares about you since he married you. I don't know, I don't think you should have male friends if you are married unless it's a mutual friend of your partner or a childood friend or a family friend.
Well when you are married...any friend of mine is a friend of his and any friend of his is a friend of mine....its not like i hang out with this guy i havent seen him in 2 years and he lives 15 hours away..
I wouldn't call if I were you....It's obvious that this guy isn't much of a friend, and why should you make an effort to call a guy who could care less? it's not worth risking your husband's affection over.
