watching this program on funerals from history of them, planning, music, setting I hate to sound morbid but it really interests me I'd like mine to be a great merry occassion have people dancing on my coffin lol I'd hate for people to be real sad its like hey still live on man just not in the same way so have a beer on me what ya all think of funerals and how you want yours?
When i die, just like ...now. i would like to be in the nature, all my friends smoking around, everybody is dancing on ' suzy Q of the CCR' and we will have huge waterpipes with hasj and weed. Flowers everywhere! Free condoms, and the heavy smell of my favourite Nag Champa. Yeah, i like that! Then after 3 days of total peace and harmony you will burn me in this absoluty stunning fire while you dance around like indians *Darn, i wish i could join that party.. i would die (again) for one more joint*
I want more of a memorial type thing. Good pictures of me with the people I love sitting around. I want people to reflect on me, and the person I was..not my dead body laying there in a casket. I hate it when people stand over someone dead in their casket saying, "ohh don't they look nice". Um..no they don't they're DEAD. This isn't how I want to be remembered. I guess after that I'd like for it to be donated to science. I'm not sure they'll want my organs though...
i'd want people to celebrate the life that i had, like, i'd want it to be a happy occasion as well as a sad one, cos whenever someone close to you dies it's awful, but i'd be going on to greater things! that would be an amazing exciting happy time. jaz
(my husband, Joe, died 2 years ago today.....) when it came time to plan a funeral, I just did what I knew that he liked. lotsa friends, grateful dead and bob marley playing, nag champa burning, kids running around, anyone who wanted to could say something, (the more people who did, the more wanted to), we had tiedyes all around, (he and I both loved the art of tie dye) We had big boards of hundreds of pictures of him, growing froma child into a father of 3 beautiful children, him on tour, him with friends, relatives, his life. There was handmade paper for people to write messages and leave for the children and I, or to put in the casket with him. At the cemetary, the directors told us about a Mexican tradition (we were in Houston) that had everyone walking past the casket and putting a handful of sand on it (I dont remember the significance of this ) one friend drew a peace sign in the sand with his finger... after the burial, we had a celebration of his life at our local Cafe, with one of Houston hippies most loved bands. All of our friends and family were there (some who were not comfortable going to the funeral also) it was the best I could do at the time, who ever thinks that whey will have to plan a funeral for a 32 yr old man? anyway, I thought I would share that....seemed fitting for the day (rest in peace, Joe, my love)
its weird i was thinking about my funeral today in my english lesson! i want a bright pink coffin! pink is my fave color and it would be so cool to have a pink coffin with a little blue peace sign on the side. i want my whole funeral to reflect me!i want the doors and pink floyd played and i want all my friends and family there. i wanna be buried with a copy of morrison hotel and a bottle of lemon fanta in my coffin and i want every one to eat party rings at the massive party afterwards! i want like a 3 day party after! xxxxxxxxxxxx
Most funerals I've gone to (and I've been to many for friends), have been really sad and depressing. When my boyfriend Dustin died last year, his funeral was quite different. Me and all his freinds just dressed normally. I wore my Led Zepplein t0shit because that was his favorite group and I knew he would want it that way. After the funeral we all went and gor sooo fucked up. It was March, and everyday that month had been cloudy and gray. The strange thing was that the day he died and the day of his funeral were two of the most beautiful days I had ever seen. Sunny and warm and not a cloud in the sky. My friends always joke to me that at my funeral there gonna be doing kegstands on my coffin and shit. Alot of people would say that is pretty disrepectful, but I dont think it is. That's how I would want it to be. And I've let everyone know that if I was to die young or anytime soon, there will be absolutely no black worn at my funeral. I'm crazy about rainbows and bright colors, so why would I want black at my funeral you know? I want all of my favorite music to be played. Stairway to Heaven, Ramble On, Little Wing, and Tomorrwo Never Knows in particular. I don't want people to be mourning my death, but remembering the person I was and the times we had. After all, death is just another part of life that we all must experience. I don't know why people make it out to be so bad. I'm a little bit nervous about it, but I suppose everyone is. Some more than others. I guess it's just a fear of the unknown, and the fear of something that is much bigger than us. Peace and Love
Hey sweetie...sorry to hear you lost your boyfriend..that must have been really tough for you. Bless you..he is still with you always. Peace, sister
Haven't given it much thought, because heck I'll be on a whole other plane of existence. Got a few request though..... Everyone should wear their best outfits, what flatters and makes them feel good. Not black, it's too cliche. Don't even think about a church service, you know I'd only go back over my dead body but that's not a serious request. Do it outside, among nature or by the sea (I was born by the sea, so it seems fitting) as pagan as you can handle. Coffin vs cremation, figure out which is better for the enviroment and go with that. Not sure about music, prefferably something upbeat (guitar rifts if possible) and one song that could be considered to have obscue ironic reference to death (knocking on heavens door, another one bites the dust etc) just because it would be appropriate, and fits my sense of humor. Will have to be more specific at some other time. Have a really good party afterward, with veggie food. Don't lay flowers, plant them or trees, herbs, anything else. It would be a wonderful metaphor of life going on.
I want people to be happy. I want real music to be played. Not that sad organ crap. And I wish the funeral was on a beach. With a sunset... hell, bury me in the pacific somewhere.
I would like to watch a video on embalming, real curious about all the steps they do and how they do this.
I want them to perform live "flesh failures/let the sunshine in" on my funeral really loud. I allso want them to play "heaven on their minds" from J.C. Superstar.
I'm the same way... it sucks when people are all weepy and morbidly depressed at funerals... not that it's without reason, but still.