no more drinking except at bars or restaraunts

ok, after a crazy uncomfortable hangover all yesterday (more time spent in bed than not, only up and "active" for about six hours, much of the rest of the time napping and about 10 hours of sleep last night) and a while of knowing i've been drinking too much, i'm cutting way back.

no more drinking all the time. i will let myself go to a bar or something on the weekends. maybe take some beer to a party once in a while. no more downing the better part of a bottle of liquor all by myself, no more drinking during the week, none for the rest of this weekend either

this will be tough, but needs to be done. i will save money and improve my health.

here we go, wish me luck please

if i go to a bar or restaraunt ON A WEEKEND i will let myself have a few. thats it.

this is going to have to work or else i'll have to go cold turkey, and i dont wanna have to swear it off entirely

 

yay you!

nothing worse than drowning in a bottle by yourself. moderation is a good thing, and very healthy. easier said than done too... lol, but i know you can do it!

 

Hey want to come over tonight for some beer?

It will be fun - lots of cute girls

 

Dude just switch to beer! I had the same problem for almost 5 years. Keeping a bottle of whiskey in the home is something that in a few years, I may have to earn that right for myself, because I go WAY overboard. I literally have 0% control over myself when I am in my warm home at night after work with a bottle next to me. I just cant tell when Im at where I want to be with whiskey, I just keep going until it catches me off guard and Im peeing on walls.
But beer I can (for the most part) control. It's actually a good thing that Im on parole and my PO checks in randomly and searches the crib. That keeps me in a balance that I needed immediatley.

 

i don't know man. i love beer and go overboard on it, too.

i can drink a six pack without batting an eye. hell, even with nasty ass steel reserve i can down five pints in a night, no problem....

i dont know, i think a better choice for me is just not having it at home

 

you know, i kinda just resigned myself to that type of lifestyle while at school. always had some sort of liquor in the room. i'd pregame in my room, then head to my friends room where we would bust out our tactically acquired booze and start up the real drinking.

really, the only cure for me was to get away from that school...so i hope you have better luck than i did

 

I admire your determination Nesta, but I bet you'll drink this week. I'm not saying I don't believe you, or that you're weak (like me), but I think it's the nasty hangover talking.

I don't really drink anymore because I have kids. I keep a journal pretty religiously, and when I look back through all those years of what I call the "hangover" entries, I always laugh at how many times I swore off drinking -- due to a hangover, or doing/saying something I regretted (or can't remember very clearly). Especially when I was in college.

The basic theme of these pitiful musings were always: "I'm never drinking again because ..." But to be honest, I largely had a good time when I was drinking. That's a hard thing to stop doing.

Just my thoughts. Maybe you have more resolve than I did. (I wouldn't recommend having kids just to stop drinking, though!) Good luck!

 

no, its not just the hangover. its the fact that i've been drinking steadily for the past couple years and need to quit for myself, too. and i dont have pocket money like i used to - i can't afford this. also i am here to study and now that i'm finally seriously in school, i need to focus on my reason for being here in the first place

i know it is really hard to stop drinking when you are used to it. thats why i will allow myself friday and saturday nights here and there:cheers2:

 

I've had some bloody, bruised, ugly hangovers where I wake up and find that I've fallen and smashed my head through glass, banged my temples on table corners, gotten into boxing matches with my neighbors and been knocked hard as hell, and puked on myself in a bathub, knocked over everything in this girls kitchen, woken up in different states with no memory of leaving one or the other state (or city, for that matter), asleep outside in parking lots, and all sorts of classic like that, but I have not said "Im never drinking again" or even "I need to cut down" during a hangover since I was maybe 17. All my choices to cut down are because it makes me unable to function in life and because it's too much money :tongue:
I've had to apologize for saying and doing stupid things around people while I was drunk, and some of these are why I dont keep liqour in the house anymore. But yea, I never let the hangover do the talking, I make choices like that when reflecting on my life as you are doing Nesta. Too much is too much. Personally, I could care less, I find 99% of the dumb shit Ive done drunk to be hilarious, I am the first to forgive others and never hold a grudge even for a moment, but I realize that the important people in my life are not so light hearted concerning drunken idiocy, plus I have my son and anoter baby on the way, so for now until my kids are grown up, I have to be very responsible. But when Im an old man and my kids are grown, you know Im going to be back into my whiskey induced poetry. Some of my most proudest writing has been done during extreme hangovers.

 

Hopefully your buddies will understand and be willing to help you out. I always felt like I was being a party pooper when I hung out but couldn't/wouldn't drink. It feels like you're pulling everyone else down. "Peer pressure" sounds like a teenage cliche, but I still sometimes feel it even well out of college. People like you, they want you to drink with them. That's hard to resist.

Again, good luck. Let us know how it goes.

 

hmm... i stopped drinking in bars/restaurants to save money... i can get a good buzz 3 times for the price of one beer in a lot of bars.

i have lots of trouble controlling myself when i start drinking too. i don't keep any alcohol in the house either. when i want to drink i just walk down to the store and buy exactly as much beer as i plan on drinking that night. lately, one 24 oz. steel reserve is usually plenty for me.

 

The sure indication of drunken success!

Nesta... I wish you the best of luck with the cutting back pledge. I imagine the rule will just result in you spending more time in bars and liberally redefining what a "weekend" constitutes because that's how I'd rationalize it in my own mind! I project my own weaknesses onto others because I cannot gracefully comprehend anyone else actually being better than moi... lol Not to worry, my fragile universe of presumed self superiority was shattered long ago! I'm actually able to grasp the concept of others having better self control than me, I just choose not to!

It took a cold-turkey-from-caffeine induced headache issue (that has persisted despite my restarting coffee) to get me to severely curtail my beer consumption... and these days hard alcohol results in a full body toxic reaction that has me curled in a fetal ball waiting for the world to end. Needless to say I have an abnormally low tolerance to alcohol that virtually assures that I will not be an alcoholic- ever. I do not wish the same for you. I hope that you can summon and maintain the level of self control that I was never able to do.

 

well, if all else fails there will always be the choice of teetotaling....i just hope it doesnt come to that.

i can't afford to drink much in bars, and when i'm in that kind of atmosphere i often get drunk on much less anyway. if wait till 10pm or later i can get away for about 20 bucks including tip and be nice and buzzed. if i go too early i'll stay too long maintaining a buzz, so i need to just be strict about it.

but hell, i can get 5 or 6 old fashioneds and leave a decent tip for under 20 bucks

and as long as i stick with friday and saturday nights, it shouldnt be an issue.

but yeah, i am conscious of the possibility of slipping back into the habit of drinking too much. so we'll see. i hope to develop better restraint.

 

wow your bars must be cheap

when my friend died i got hit real hard and i drank alot
but i'm cutting back, haven't drank anything in over a week
when i was in europe i got drunk but remained in control and i want to continue that here
before i left i had absolutely no control

 

well the one i go to the most isn't very expensive, depending on what you get. the two times i've gotten old fashioneds there i just had them use jim bean for the bourbon and got charged only for the whiskey.

if i want beer they have good prices too, depending on what i want.

 

i hate ontario drinking laws

 

oh? why?

 

stupid shit like, you can only buy beer and alcohol from two stores, the beer store or the lcbo <liquor control board of ontario>
ontario is the one province <i think, i'm too lazy to check> that has a legal drinking age of 19
you cannot serve alcohol after 2 am in bars, but we get til 3am on new years

the ontario government taxes the fuck out of alcohol too

 

eh, we have tons of taxes here, too

but i love the LCBO stores...its so fun going there....course i went when i was nineteen, and so it was a novelty for me to be able to go and just get a little of everything

 

um, only two provinces don't have 19, Manatoba and Quebec, which are 18. Either way, it's better than say the states, where it's 21.

Some places you can't serve OR sell it on Sundays or mondays, before 12pm and after 12am... we have it really easy. So what if you can't get it at the local convenience store or shopping center.

... I do, however agree with the taxes lol