How do you feel about your Dad?

I get along much better with my dad than my mom, but my dad is different from me in so many ways. He goes out of his way to help people he doesn't even know and is very extroverted. To describe my dad would be having a "nice guy" personality. Everyone who meets my dad likes him.

I am more introverted, like my mother, though she is not nearly as introverted as I am. Personality-wise I am more like my mother, who is more cynical, but not in the same way as me. My mom is more booksmart, while my dad is more lifesmart and has more common sense.

 

i wish i could speak to him like I'm able to speak with my mom...

 

I laughed the second time he came home with cancer.

 

Had a disappointing father too, eh? I'm sorry to hear it. Do you think you will ever feel comfortable talking about it?

 

I have a lot of respect for my father. I think ultimately I love him very much. But there is a wall that he put up and it's been a long time coming to chip away at it.

 

Love him, with all of my heart.

 

My Dad is an accountant.

Interests:
The Blues
Camping in the Outback
Watching Football

Not very interesting but very kind. Honestly, his simplicity makes him difficult to relate to but very easy to love and admire.

 

Hes a great man.

 

I think I worked really hard to either spite my dad or make him proud somehow. He just kind of came around out of the blue. I think if it weren't for his neighbourhood friends and family, he would have never given me the kind of attention that I was looking for as a kid.

Very few women just... do what I do, ya know? He listens to the intelligent and clever things I've always had to say and now instead of smacking me in the mouth for saying the darnest things, he watches me lead groups, win debates and solve problems on my own. I think he's very proud of me and he loves me now, although it took a long time to really get that from my dad.

I hope to get married to someone who's going to be a very loving and great dad to my kids someday.

 

He's freaking psychotic. I've been in and out of therapy for a few years regarding it. He raped me 6 years ago because he's infatuated with my mom and was pissed that I kept her suing him for backed child support a secret.
He's just an all around shitty human being.

 

That's why I married Andy. I knew he would be a great dad and he has a good heart-no mind games. Mind games and pssive agressiveness can fuck a kid up.
I finally got him to agree that we will not spank our kids, so now all of our views on parenting are ont he same page.

 

My dad is an alcoholic druggie that beat my mom and hit me, he is a total piece of shit... But hes still my pops.

 

Do you live with him, pushit?

 

You know, I'm very happy for you Lyns. I am kind of getting that maternal instinct or whatever feeling you get when you feel mentally ready to have a family and children. It's something I wish I could put off to the side, and I know that I will, but it's instinctual to kind of find yourself a man, get settled and be prepared to have his children.

I don't know. It's a safe feeling, a warm feeling when you've found the right person, and I'm glad you are getting everything that you've ever dreamed of and deserved from Andy. He really listens to you, you know and he loves you.

 

Can you beat his ass yet?

Because you should. If someone beat my mom, oh shit.

 

Thanks
I want to have kids reall bad right now, but am so mentally unstable I am afraid of post-partum or being so stressed out I would cause the fetus distress.
Did you use dto have a different name on here?
He's a good husband, but nothing is perfect. I was ready to file for divorce if he didn't jump on board with not hitting our kids. It was just one of those things we should have discussed before we got married, but didn't. It was the most serious fight we've ever been in. I was heartbroken.

 

He's a pretty good guy.

 

I have no idea about the man that put his sperm inside my mother. He was 18, she was 16. They got married in NC because it was legal at the time. He was in some military branch. They lived in Germany. I was born there. Mama left him, came back to the states.
The sperm donor tried to visit me two times in my life. Each time drunk and stumbling. Would visit for a moment and then leave. Mom told him that he could not be sporatic so he was in or he was out. He choose out....so her second husband adopted me.

What do I feel about that man!? He is my hero. He even adopted me after they had gotten divorced. And even after my mother had her car accident.....he took care of me as if I were his own. He has NEVER treated me any differnt then his other children. I love him dearly.

 

I am so sorry, that is so horrible! That's beyond horrible, that's evil, and even that word isn't bad enough. What an unforgivable thing to do to one's child (or to anyone). I hope he will suffer for what he has done. How are you coping with it nowadays (if it's not personal)?

 

No, I've always been Aristartle, but we've been conversing for a couple years. I used to post more in the women's & men's issues forum back when Maggie Sugar was around and such and I used to harp on that Insane Jester kid. I think it's how we started. I am pretty sure that I talked to you before you started dating Andy, it was kind of when you found yourself - that period. Anyway, I remember falling head over heels with you because you were having some kind of party and serving Chambord. Insta-bond connection. You had me at "Chambord", my friend.