Hello all... So far I've been straight, have had quite a few relationships with females and a good sex life with them. I have always had a small curiosity about pleasing a man though. Recently, that desire has been getting more intense. I honestly have no idea why, I just really get aroused at the thought of pleasing another guy orally. I have been a little curious for a long time, I even went and bought a dildo at the local sex shop to play with from time to time. I'm not much on anal, but occasionally I will use it to give myself an over-the-top orgasm when masturbating, but that is about it, and that is once in a great while. Lately I have enjoyed sucking on it when I masturbate. This has been going on for a couple of months. The past couple of days has shown what I guess you could call the next step in my curiosity. I have been checking Craigslist personal ads in the gay section. Two reasons, 1. to see if there are other guys like me that advertise on CL, and what are they saying in the ads - 2. to see how many guys are posting ads to receive what they call a "blow n go." I have thought about going to a gay bar a couple of times, but if I go through with anything I'd like it to be more anonymous than that, if that makes any sense. I still mainly fantasize and act out on heterosexual urges and things, hell there is a girl that works next door to my store that smokes weed with me and we fool around almost every time, this happens at least once a week....but basically I have this desire to suck a dick. The point I guess I'm trying to get to is...what do you guys think about posting ads on CL for this service? I really want to try it and see what it is really like, since a dildo isn't the real deal, yanno? But I want to be as discreet/anonymous as possible in case I don't like it, etc. My concern is any gay bashers out there that may post ads on CL, looking to lure somebody in to physically harm them. I'm not "gay", if anything right now I would say I am bi-curious probably. After the act I'll probably end up being a true bi-sexual because if the urge continues or increases after I blow someone then I think I'll probably do it more often. I honestly can't see myself doing anal with somebody, so oral is as far as it would go for me. For my first encounter, I would like it to be in and out, no reciprocation. What are you guy's thoughts on this? And about the CL thing? Any advice on getting someone to hook up with under those conditions?
I'm in the same boat as you. I've been curious for years, but I haven't been as serious about it as I've been in the last few months. Unfortunately I haven't found anyone serious enough to get started. And like you, I frequented Craigslist daily. Even posting ads twice a day, if not a few times each week. And in all those cases, none of those guys have followed through, or at least give you enough info about them that if you contracted something, they can be reached. The farthest I've gotten was actually meeting a guy in a public restroom, but we both chickened out because of the amount of foot traffic coming in and out. Since then, everyone else on CL or elsewhere seem to flake... And here I thought black men were a valuable commodity when it came to sexual hookups. All I can say is don't give up your search, and make sure you feel right about that person. At least know some of the basics about him, to get an idea if this is a frequent thing he does (which is questionable about his health), and see if he sounds like a creep or weirdo (the kind you don't want to be in an elevator alone with). If you were on this side of town I'd do you... Best of luck.
Don't meet in a restroom or anything. That's just gross and you're gonna regret it later. Make it something you will enjoy.
I agree... I think since neither of us could host, that was the best option at the time. Besides, I had an 8 day load ready to burst, so I didn't care whether or not a restroom was my first place. Too bad it didn't happen then or the following time either, because this guy was nice and soft looking. Latino, unisexual, and smaller (in height & weight, not cock) than me... Probably would have swallowed my load or taken a creampie if I told him to. DAMN!!! Now I'm horny.
This is just a suggestion - but there is only ONE forst time for everything, so why not make your first time more than a quickie blowjob in a public rest room where you run the risk of being discovered or n some places, even prosecuted? Obviously, you have made the choice to act on your urges and try the bi way so instead of a few minutes in a public place, why not wait for a bit and try to seek out another guy like yourself to do it with? By "another guy like yourself", I mean a guy who is either relatively new or inexperienced with whom you can learn and explore new things. You mentioned placing an ad on Craigslist and all of the responses being disapointing. Don't give up. Keep trying and also go to an adult store and pick up some contact magazines or newspapers and advertise in them? There are lots of sites online as well. Another option that could be even more fun is to look for a couple where the guy is bi. There are women and couples out there who would dlike to have you join them for an inter racial fling and that way you get the best of both worlds - some pussy and some dick. It might be more fun to have a woman teach you how to go down on her husband than to just do it with a guy.. My first time as an adut was with a couple and there's something really hot about watching an attractive woman going down on her husband and then taking him from her mouth and offering him to you.. trust me on that one. With all of the nasty stuff going around out there, you might want to be really cautious as to diseases and a couple or bi virgin like yourself is likely a safer bet than a guy in a rest room.. what do you think? That's just my opinion.
