A good husband/boyfriend would....

--Be willing and able to kill someone in my defense (if necessary)
--Build me a house
--Fix things around said house (and my car)
--Refer to me as "woman"
--Not freak out if I start crying
--Give good hugs
--Be tough on the outside, but soft on the inside

I'm basically looking for a refined caveman

 

be very very patient.

 

would sometimes cook.
would be my EQUAL.

 

Good rope skills.

 

not be squeamish about girly times.

 

hahahaha - good one!

A good husband would:
Laugh with me.
Pick me wildflowers because he knows I love them.
Dance in the moonlight with me.
Tell me that he loves me, everyday.
Sleep close to me.
and
Help with housework.

 

A good husbant would tell me he loves me every day.

 

a good husband would have mine and our childrens best interest in mind.

 

A great husband knows how to catch your eye in a crowded room, holds eye contact just long enough to give you chills, and keeps the silent promise when you both have left the party. He is the one who knows every thing there is to know about you. He is the one that reads your mind. Knows when to leave you alone and knows when you want to be held. He is the one who know when you want to "make love" and when just having sex will do the trick.

 

A good husband is first of all a good, decent human being. He is a grown-up man, not a boy ... he takes responsibility for his own life and is kind and generous and loving. He works hard, but isn't consumed by his job.

His family is the most important thing in his life, and he will do anything in his power to keep them happy and healthy. His children are precious to him above diamonds and gold, and their welfare is uppermost in his mind at all times.

He will not let disagreements with me pass. He will discuss them with me to resolve them and put them behind us. He will not shrink from addressing difficult issues. He will face up to them like a man.

He will open himself up and share his life with me. He will not just be a roommate. He will think of me as his best friend, his life partner, the one who is committed to him through thick and thin, for all eternity.

His love for me will have no limit. His heart will be filled to bursting with his love for me and his children. He will let us know this every single day, and in countless ways, from helping with homework to giving up new golf clubs in order to save for college tuition. He understands that his children idolize him, and he accepts that responsibility willingly, and goes to great effort to make sure he is a good role model for them.

He will be physically demonstrative ... he will hug me and hold my hand in public and kiss me in the morning, even before I've brushed my teeth. He will love to romp and play with his kids ... he'll get down on the floor with them or out in the yard with them and play with them for hours.

He will have foresight ... he will look beyond today to make sure his family is provided for. He will work with me to plan our finances, our home, our lives.

He will lean on me if he needs to. If he is unhappy, he will trust me to help him however I can. He will not suffer in silence, nor would he let me suffer in silence. If he needs to be alone, he will tell me and I will leave him alone. If he wants to have his buddies over to watch football, I will serve them snacks and beer and stay out of their way.

He has the ability to laugh and to see the joy in life.

He will love to have sex with me. He will tell me the things that he likes so that I can please him the best I can, just as he will make a special effort to please me. We will fuck anytime and anywhere the desire strikes us. He will remain faithful, just as I will. He can fantasize all he wants, but he will not put a finger on another woman without me.

He will be a responsible member of his community. He will recognize and accept his responsibility to be a steward of the earth, and to make a contribution to his community and his country.

He will have a strong and abiding spirituality, in whatever way it plays out.

I don't expect him not to make mistakes. But I do expect him to own up to his mistakes, to acknowledge them, to learn from them, and resolve not to repeat them. He doesn't try to weasel out of them, or put the blame on someone else.

Whew ... I guess this is enough for now ... lol

 

Guess I killed this thread

 

no, you didn't, in fact, i love your post. best post ever!

although, i really don't know what to follow it up with...made me all teary-eyed and shit.

thank you for writing that. =p

 

Im convinced there are no good men..

 

Take my smartass comments and give me a smartass comment back ( )

Not to be critical when I dont know something and just tell me the meaning of it

Not too romantic or lovey dovey

Be in control in stressful situations

Ambitious and striving to succeed

stay positive when I'm negative

COMPROMISE WITH ME!!

Be really funny

Dont shower me with gifts, I like surprises once in a blue moon

Gotta keep the sex kinky and HOT!

 

i guess it's different for everyone...i love romantic men.

understands why i worry about the things i worry about.

keeps me grounded when my head's way in the clouds.

loves me for me (that's a given).

let's me know how much i mean to him everyday, even if it's just an i love you.

puts up with my crazy ass family, mainly my mother.

supports me in everything i do, even if he doesn't think it's a good idea.

 

Wow I killed the thread..

 

Caliente,

I want to tell you how much I admire your excellent writing skills and understanding of human nature / psychology. I truly appreciate your perspective on life. In the past few weeks, I have learned a lot about myself by reading your replies / posts. You are a breath of fresh air (I'm not blowing smoke either). You are a special person and deserve nothing but the best.

As I read through your post on what makes a good husband / boyfriend, I have to say that I don't completely measure up, but you gave me a road map to follow. A relationship is built on love and trust. It's a partnership. It's not all about the sex.

Spud

 

Thank you so much, Spud

I don't think it's really about measuring up. No one will ever be perfect, but we can love them anyway.

What I think is interesting is that you could change this thread to "a good wife", and very little would be different.

Thank you for your kind words

Carole

 

be my best friend
be protective
be a romantic (i think its lovely) however not buy me flowers. (they die in my care)
be supportive and approachable
be loving
tells me he loves me and gives me lots of kisses and hugs
has a laugh and messes about
takes me to places he likes and places i like
is kind and caring and trys his best

i've got him already tho

 

let me be me... krazy, silly... giggle with me, share with me, love me...