kissed a guy and dsiliked it

i kissed a guy for the first time the other night and hated it, it felt weird

 

ok......

 

Was it just some obscure random guy you just met minutes or hours before? That could explain why you may not have liked it.

 

no went to a gay club sort ov we all went in because it hs good music there, and starights go in aswell, but i met a guy and got talking to him very attractive guy, but didnt feel right,

 

You might have to kiss a lot of toads to find a prince. You won't have chemistry with every person you kiss - you gotta practice and find one that gives you that spark.

 

so when u say u wont have chemistry with every person u kiss, so basically any straight man could kiss a man and maybe not enjoy it, but would have to find the right person they have chemistry. just want to clear something up everyone know the obvious of the difference between a gay man and i straight man, but what are the differences in what they are feeling e.g when i straight man looks at a guy, and when a gay looks at a guy, any answers would be greatful

 

You come to ask us what it feels like when a straight man looks at a man AND what it feels like when a gay man looks at a man??

well if we're gay we can only say what it feels like when a gay man looks at a man.
and if we're straight we can only say what it feels like when a straight man looks at a man.

theres no point asking a bi person either, because it'd more than likely be the same answer as a gay man.

and as far as "what they are feeling", well i see many men every day....you dont really feel anything unless you start talking to them and getting to know them, which would be the same as if you were straight i should imagine.

the only differences there would be is that individual preference in what you like in a person (and im not just talking relationship terms).

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The first time i kissed a guy, i really didnt like it, it felt really strange and the whole stubble rubbing on my face and rougher kissing really didnt do anything for me. But i think i didnt like it because it wasnt what i was used to, I was used to kissing soft girls and the next time i was with a girl i thought to myself 'actually i think i prefer a guys kiss better' and the next time i did get with a guy i loved it.

My words of advise are dont judge everything on one kiss, ive seen your other posts and you have tonnes of emotions flying round so your heads probably a bit mashed up, but nice one for biting the bullet and kissing a bloke, do it again and hopefully you will enjoy it more.

 

Possibilities:

• They were a crap kisser.
• You were a crap kisser.
• You weren't in the right frame of mind to enjoy it/.
• You're not gay/bi.

I know no-one wants to suggest the latter but really, they're not got enough information to assume that you're gay. There's a lot less stigma around boys kissing boys than there was and a lot more emphasis on how people should experiment rather than commit to a sexuality and stick with it. Which is good, really - try before you buy and all that.

I'd say just chalk it down to experience. There have been plenty of guys that I've been really attracted to but who kissed like they were trying to administer a stomach pump with their tongue. I wouldn't dismiss the possibility that you're just not into guys that way, but I'd need to know exactly what you didn't like about it really. There's some stuff which is going to be just a case of how the guy kisses, and some stuff that's going to be how guys generally kiss. If you're not used to taking the lead in a kiss, for example, it can be strange having a gay kiss, where there's no clear "man kisses, woman swoons" etiquette.

I've found that a lot of non-gay guys like to kiss other men, not because they'd not for them but more as a bonding thing. Hard to really explain, but I dunno, I guess guys don't get much opportunity for physical contact and making out can just be written off as pissing around if anyone asks.

 

crikey charlie are u offically gay now then, like u said u have klissed women before, what would i be feeling if i was staright though, and what would i be feeling if i was gay,

 

Yeah i describe myself as gay, but theres a few ladies who i wouldnt say no to.
Ummm i dont no what you would be feeling if you was straight or gay, everyone is different, like im gay but i didnt enjoy my first encounters with men because it was new and totally different to what i was used to, and it could be the same for you.
As Hoatzin said, they could of been a shit kisser so dont base whether your gay or not on one kiss, next time your with a dude it could be amazing, so if i was you i would shrug it off and be like yeah it was a bit rubbish, see what happens next time.

 

but how can u be gay if u have slept with women did u enjoy it, and especially if u are saying there are a few weomen u would say yes to

 

Thats quite true I mean a kiss is often just a kiss but if it is with the right person it is fantastick. E.g. you love them or feel a conechion with them.

Just keep on the scean mate - unforutlie you often have to experance the crap first but there will be somone out there for you.

 

Yeah i do enjoy having sex with women, just doesnt happen that often.
I pretty much look at men mostly but if i see a really sexy girl, i get the same feelings as if it were a man, i just describe myself as gay cuz as i said its nearly always men im looking at but if i get with a girl it suprises people and i think thats why i do it, just to shock people, which is just a personal choice of mine i like to suprise people.

At the end of the day sex is sex and i personally dont care who its with, man or woman, as long as your safe and have fun, thats all that matters in my eyes.

As electric boy said you will experience some crap to start with but thats like with most things, just dont give up after one crap kiss go get yourself some fit bloke you like and have fun.

 

Didn't really enjoy the first, since it was weird. People found out I was the way I was at that moment really. I was embarrassed, and felt ashamed.

Then that went away, and realised it is not really odd at all, and that I shouldn't feel ashamed of what I did because it was something I wanted to do deep down.

The next time was amazing, I was proud and didn't care what the fuck anyone thought.

You don't have to enjoy a kiss with a guy, like someone else mentioned- they could simply be a bad kisser or something.

End of, if you were strait, since you know now you wouldn't do it again.

If you were not, then you will be kissing a fair few boys

 

but the whole shagging a man doesn seem to interest me, i just like looking at attrcative men

 

Do you get any sexual urges when you look at attractive men? Like do you see one and think Id have some of that, maybe not shagging but a kiss or a bit more?

 

yes i do like he is nice, and start checking there crotches out, what is it like to be fucked by a man, always think that anal sex would fucking be very painful

 

Maybe your straight?

 

hey ukpokerplayer. Been quite a while, riht?
I see you still have a lot ov questions about yourself but made a few moves. Well, i did some as well.
i admit sometimes kissing a guy can feel "weird", but kissing a girl ain't that different. For the few girlfriends i had before fully turning to guys, i felt that almost the same.
For 2 months now, i've tried backrooms. You don't see, you don't talk, you start where you want, and some guys just come for kissing (most of the time, for more).
Maybe you're not ready for that, but as the others said, don't stop because one kiss felt weird, or awkward. Just give it another try...