I'm Well Confused

Wow, a reminder how naive I was at 16, which meant high school for me, already sexually active, so not so naive in some ways, but at that time had no concept of thinking of asking for exclusivity with then current special friend

 

No, I don't think you do. Unless gay people have a completely different concept of love from straight and bi people, I'm pretty sure you just like the guy a lot. If you actually loved him, you would be incredibly torn up because he cheated on you and you wouldn't be so cavalier about the whole thing. You would never want to leave someone you love just because you "don't want a long term relationship".

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Reading over the thread, I think you made the right decision. You aren't ready for a real relationship right now and have no reason to try to be in one. Good luck

 

ah but there we hit the question "What exactly is love?"

so tell me...what EXACTLY is love?

but it also comes down to individuality as to whether you'd be incredibly cut up about something like that. i'm not disputing the fact that a lot of people would be, but then there are people who wouldn't be.

agreed, maybe i was exaggerating a little, but as i said its not the fact he did it. i can empathise because i've done it myself. i can be a very tolerant person when it comes to certain things.

it's the fact that he knows he did it and he didnt say anything to me that pissed me off, to put it bluntly. on top of this, we'd agreed that if we did do anything we'd tell the other, and the day before he did it, he gave me a huge lecture on how he would want me to tell him if i did anything.

so its the fact that he didnt trust me enough, and that he was being somewhat of a hypocrite.

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I've been meaning to say this for a while but never got round to it:

I'm not sure it was being in a relationship that put me off, i think it was just where i was in a relationship with someone who was older than me by enough years to be thinking LONG term (as in...rest-of-our-lives long).

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I thinck you made the right choice to take a brake / stop going out with him i mean you may not be redey for a long term relshionship, - for it to work things have to be right.

However saying that i do thinck you did love him it may not be right for the long term - there will be others but you are young theres no need to setel down if you dont want to or if u dont thinck it is right.