hello, i started growing my hair at the begining of a spiritual walk. i don't plan to cut my hair. i really want to lock it but after reading this forum for a while i'm now questioning that. i am caucasian with long, thick, curly hair. i'm not stylish and i don't want my hair to be such a big deal, that would defeat my purpose. i'm not looking for a style, more for function. i was under the impression locking my hair would be the simplest, most natural solution for me but the conversations here make it seem complicated. anyone here have dreads for the right reason? any help?
I personally don't believe there is a "right reason" in getting dreads. The reason thats correct is the one thats correct for you. Doesn't mean its going to be the same for other people. Not everyone grows dreads for the same reason nor should they have to in my opinion. Whats important is that you do whats right for yourself. I hear what your saying though. One of the reasons I would consider cutting my dreads off is because of all the bitching that goes on online, it makes me a little sad and sometimes I don't feel I want to be part of that in any way at all. Advice is good but when things get out of hand I find its really stupid. My advice would be, read as much as you can, talk to people who have dreads, then follow your own path based on what you've learnt and what feels right for you.
what made it seem complicated? some ppl preffer to make simple things more complicated theres an addictive nature to hair care all theyre lives they thought you had to do thingsto get results so when they wanteds dreads they worked at them hours a day drewads are simple though..do nothing..dreads happen its the slow way but its the only way ive ever known all thgese complex ways u hewar of today id never heard of when mine started so long ago i know only..stop brushging and drewads happen..somplicity at its best. it woeked fine for me
Yea, what the fuck is the right reason. Get off your high horse. Peoples reasons for locking are as diverse as hairstyles. The right reason is relative to the person. Go away fucknut.
At the end of the day, is there a right reason, is there a wrong reason to have them? Its all about personal choice, your doing it for yourself not for anyone else. Peace of the Grove /|\ Alex
o.k thanks to the adults for correcting me on the right reason thing. i live around nothing but haitians and jamacians and they hate krackers with salon dreads. i realize the religious signifigance of dreads to some cultures and don't mean offend to anyone. i don't come to furms much cause i grew up in detroit and i can't believe all the keyboard tuff guys out there. in my hood speaking tuff without action is as weak as it gets. typing tuff? come on! good luck growing with that attitude at 19, skamikaze. thanks to the others, seems like going natural is the way to go.
Trying to find the "right" reason is like trying to prove or disporve there's an afterlife. Only you can say what the right reason is. Skamikaze, There was no need for that aggressive outburst IMO
i dont see why thatd be problematic,, im the same minus the long and curly part. i started mine by backcombing but i used wax (dont use wax,, please dont) the only advise you need is patience & time.. if you wanna get dreads for whatever reason, then get them =] ignore the arguments on here, its been a tad shit lately and its not necessary, but shit happens =]
if ya want dreads for the hughest of reasons then the hiughest of routes is the best route to take, letting nature take over ..giving up your will over the will of your haior..and just allowing them to happen as natyre intended.. and your hair sounds perfect for the natural joirney too
i'm having some difficulties agreeing that WHATEVER the reason for a person, if it seems right for him/her, it's right in general. 'right' is nearly impossible to define, so many things to take into account with all kinds of dependencies, but c'mon i don't see the typical waxhead stereotypes who aim for a predefined social slot, depthlessly just for the looks, very 'right' ... 'live and let live' is great, but there are certain limits to stuff... or alright ima stop right here, not the place and the time, but its been bugging me lately...some stuff regarding these subjects sound like smooth excuses... nvm though, my thoughts probably went another route and this stuff probably seems very out of place
so lets not use right and wromng but highest and lowest rthe hughest of reasons being purely spiritual nothing else most fall lil below that even with deep spiritual reasons they may have other slightly less pure reasonings follow that down the scale to the glued on fake synthetic dreads worn by some goths or ravers that aerw pureluy for fashion or shock value is that wrong? its not my reasoins but can i say iots wroing? nah but its certainly a lower less pure reason lets take that another way.. 2 drinkers 1 decides to quirte drinking so he has a better shot at taking care of his family properluy and a better shot at a good life..the other quites because he got 5 dui's and ran over an onld ladty so the coiyrt forced im into rehab 1 reasons definatelky hugher then the other but is 1 right 1 wrong? isnt it right in the end that they both quit? right and wrong maybe not the best of terms...higher purpose maybe more fitting
Some of us might not have pure, spiritual intentions when we first decide to walk the dreadlock path, but as our locks grow, so does our intuition and desire to learn and grow. Soon, we realise the true power of our dread locks and are grateful for the lessons we have learned from them.
I couldn't agree more. My first set were purely a fashion accessory. Now I have my 2nd set and I know how to care for them, I have learnt a great deal about myself and the world.
do what you gotta do, brother, just don't use wax. if you live at the beach that will help your hair lock up faster! :jealous: as for people ridiculing you for being white and having dreads, or for having them for nonreligious reasons, there are a few threads in this forum that discuss responses to those kinds of attacks, some funny, some serious... they're worth looking at. have faith! everything is all right.
thanks guys, i'm glad you all took it easy on me for the whole right and wrong thing. i'm also glad to see that most of you understood what i was tryin to say. hey, how does livin by the beach help me lock up? the saltwater does rat up my hair like crazy, is that it? if i wanna do this natural, how should i wear my hair in the meantime? i usually put it in a ponytail, would that interfere? mabye a hat? i make roofs out of stone so i'm outside in the heat and i sweat all day. i've been wantin to do this for bout a year now, this is the first place i've been able to find good info. everyone round me says "don't do it" but like i said, they're all rastas and they see it as i'm tryin to make a joke about thier faith.
If you swim in the sea it helps lock up the dreads thats why people say living near the beach is best for dreads. Putting your hair in a pony tail won't hinder the dreading process and wearing a tam would help to lock them up immensely. If you live in a warm climate maybe get a hat made from breathable material? Or you could just wear it when you sleep.
keeping it in a pont tail too much can hurt actualy.. where its tied might not dread as good and having em all bound ytogether could encourage a unidread it wont hurt to put em in a pony tail atyt work or whenever but u should let em be free or wear a hat as much of the time..and be more vigelamt with seperating em so u dont get 1 huge dread i know an old jaxzz sax player who always wore his in a ponytail not intending to dread but he left it in the pony tail too long and now has just a single dreaded ponytail.. and yea the salt water removes alotta oils and makes the hair perfect for knottin up
