I can't define what I am...

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Lets not go in with the "Label everything" attitude the Hetties do. You probably want to experiment, so do it. I mean, if you're not sure, but there's still something there, then I would personally go out and get some experience before you "define" yourself.

 

Damn right, don't try to label yourself just because you don't know.
As would say Emily Brook Hands, we're just bodies with organic needs. If u keeps asking, you won't find any answer. Just give it a try (not the whole thing), see what happens...

 

MAN WE ARE EXACTLY THE SAME
seriously,
i'm like that
only ever loved woman, wanted to hug woman, blah blah
but got aroused by gay porn only for the sexual content, not the romantic,
wonderin if that made me bi or just "one of those teenagers who, because of hormones, have erections at totally unrelated things all the time, for no apparent reason"

BUT
trust me, son, just experiment.
i have. i have a gay friend, and we experimented, and he's definitely not into girls, but he's never been in "true love"
and being a male, he's quite open to the whole "sex for sex's sake" idea
so every now and then, normally when we're drunk, we just fool around, and its fun.
and FUN is what life should be. man, my parents don't know, my best female friends don't know. only this gay friend, and another bi male, but thats it.

and am fine with that. that makes me happy.
when i'm in love with a girl, i wanna be with her all the time, and sex isn't necessarily first thing to mind, i just wanna hold her, kiss her, hug her, love her etc. just be in love and feel all those wonderful emotions,
but when am single
i can get no strings attached booty call.
and TO BE HONEST mate,
the things a guy knows how to do to a guy are wayyyy better than anything a girl's gonna learn in Cosmo.
quite simply cos he , too, has a cock


seriously,
do not define "bisexual" as someone who has equal sexual feelings towards both genders. it does not have to be equal.
if you can get it up for both, and you enjoy it, and you don't feel weird or anything, then thats all that matters.

FUN & HAPPINESS for everyone man

 

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Well you're 19, the main sex-drive of your life is over now. But still, don't do sex for the sake of sex, I mean.... kiss, fondle, whatever to try and determine if you like it, but I wouldn't have sex just to see, might be the worst decision of your life

 

I would say just go with the flow, you don't need a label to know who you are. Just go with what feels right. Hope that helped.

My $.02

 

Everyone is right, labeling yourself would be pointless- plus it can seem restricting.

If I had to hazard a suggestion, you do sound more Bi-curious than full on Bisexual mind. I have had a number of friends who have felt the same as you have.

You don't need sex to determine what you would believe yourself to be. I mean, you mentioned you have never had as much as a fantasy about a relationship with a male- to me that is probably the key to answering this question.

But then without having either a relationship or any sexual contact with another guy, you cannot really be completely sure of your sexuality and you may remain indefinite on the matter.

I would say just relax, and yeah, 'go with the flow'. If you do take on an opportunity, don't compromise taste over impatience. I did and really doubted myself after a crappy first time, which made me simply feel more confused.

 

Stuff the labes for now just experment and see how it goes - if you arnt comfatable to go for it right away thats ok its when YOU are redey to experment with you gay side.

 

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