The other night I hooked up with a ex of a good friend of mine. They were together for a few years and even lived together for a while. They've been broken up for about 6 months. However, I know he's still not completely over her. He is a very good friend who has helped me out a lot, we play music together and even work together sometimes. I've had a crush on her for a while. She warned me "Don't like me" as in, she's not in any position to be in a relationship right now. I am not in a position for anything serious either, but would love to pursue something casual with her (I'm trying to figure out how to express that to her.) Her and I are the only ones who know what happened (at least at the moment), though I would hate for my friend to find out from a 3rd party and then be really pissed at me. I'm really not sure how to approach the situation. What should I do?
Well, thats a hard one, I wouldn't sleep with my friends ex's because I had a friend do it to me and it sucked. Just bite the bullet and tell him straight up.
Either tell him or hide it... I say tell him this happend to a friend of mine and shit got ugly as for pursuing something casual just say look Id like to have casual no strings sex with you and see what happens
Have you talked to the ex about it? She might provide some insight. If you want a casual relationship with her, I'd let your friend know. He may not be your friend for much longer, but at least the situation won't blow up. If you decide to make it more of a one-time thing, I'd be more of the mind that what your friend doesn't know, won't hurt him.
Tell your friend. I'd like to think true friends don't keep things like this from each other. If you do hide and he finds out, I dont see him being to happy about it. "Just say listen man Im not sure if your over____ but im gonna tell you staight up that we actually hooked up, im not sure if anythings really gonna happen with it but im just making sure its not a big deal." I said something along the lines to in a similar situation and it worked out.
All I can really say is that that kind of stuff is really heavy. Hopefully everyone involved can think rationally as possibly in the midst of such heavy emotion stuff. Right now I'm in... not really that sort of situation (though i've been there before) but something equally as intense. Good Luck
