After calling it quits with the 2 guys I met (long story) I figured leaning on my ex would be nice cause i missed him throughout meeting the guys. I got a hold of him through facebook and my surprise he answered to come on over. we talked and talked and he tells me that a girl he met, wasnt really going anywhere. but he quickly changed the topic. Now we got a little touchy like the past times, we end up in bed we usually do this cause we're most comfortable with each other. I expected this to happen cause I wanted it to. but the other night he did something different, as I turned to the side back facing him, I seen his hand reach over to hold mine. He said to me "we argue and go our ways but we always seem to come back.." I said nothing. He continued and said "I feel like the asshole part of me is eating away the good guy..Im such an idiot knowing that i have an awesome girl next to me, I just dont know what to do" I told him that he still had good in him and that im just waiting until he sees what i see in us. he said that sex was ONE of the main reasons why he wants me. I already knew that cause its partly what I want of him too. Hes been wanting me to spend the night with him lately, im shocked cause that kinda stuff is important to him and me (we never woke up next to anyone)after talking to my mom, she agreed to let me go. I talked to him and I told him "dont think im going to come over and hop in your bed, I wanna hang out too. it'll get your sexual feelings for me to calm down" And to my complete complete surprise, he was all up for it. I was happy cause im thinking he wants to move on with me. He said "we can watch movies, talk, take a walk, eat out, smoke..it'll be awesome" that made me feel good but i tell it to some people and they say "oh he just wants to get laid!" I know we're going to have sex, but just the feeling of hanging out and getting to know each other better will be cool too but my friends say "hes gonna have sex with you and leave you" I cant stand when they say that, cause hes not like that. Hes an ass cause hes confused about dating me! it makes me so mad. but do you think if we hang more and he gets closer to me, he'd change his mind?? i need help changing his mind cause he is definitely going to miss OUT!
miss out on the sex?..i porked my ex once in a while til he got all clingy. when foolin 'round with exs, remember that they are EXs for a reason
no no i love every thing about him. Just he needs to know that hes not making a mistake with me we didnt end on bad terms. my mom kinda ripped us apart a long time ago, and we've been seeing each other on the side. we get along well, I just need to find ways to calm his sexual feelings down
Not to be stereotypical, or blanket all males, but he's a teenage guy...sex will always be on his mind. Haha. But that doesn't mean that's JUST what he wants either. He's up for doing other stuff, so take advantage of that. Maybe plan an activity that won't leave room for sex. As the night progresses, see what his reaction is. Other than that, just take things one day at a time. It sounds like you want to give the guy a chance, so go for it. Just take care that you are careful and don't get hurt.
okay ill go with that then. hes been talking to me more. im really liking it. its what ive been waiting for. thank you
Why waste your precious time with someone who thinks he is making a mistake? Why not let someone else find you just right for them?
I shouldnt say mistake but hes afraid to get close to me, he doesnt like getting close to people cause they fuck him over. Im in the same boat with him. He had a lonely childhood-kids messin with him and such. I told him im on the same exact boat with him cause i use to get made fun of in elementary and looked down on as 'different' cause of my disability. Basically I just want to let him feel and know that its okay to lay it all on me and get close to me but hes distant from it. I dunno if I should talk to him more or what
I have found that if I push myself on someone it usually ends up being some kind of compromise that makes the relationship strained. I don't like beating my head up against someone else's wall. I usually just end up with a head ache. I would rather meet with someone where the feelings are more mutual. Life is hard enough without going over the edge for someone who's not sure about me. I have met people who wanted to be with me and I did not feel the same and although I did not want to hurt them I knew it wasn't feeling right for me. With guys I have found it is best to allow them enough space for a get together to be their idea. He knows you are interested in him give him breathing room. I hope you will consider that there are many guys out there who might appreciate you more and not be so hesitant. We have almost all experienced rejection and cruelty from others especially in childhood. The way to make up for it is to know you are valuable and you don't have to convince anyone that you are good enough for them. Why waste time on someone who cannot see your worth? It is their loss not yours...Be good to you k You sound like a really sweet person.
