(I'm not sure if this is the right place so if it's not tell me and I'll delete it :S) I'm 16yo.. a few months ago I met this amazing girl at school and I couldn't get my eyes off her To be honest, since then there wasn't even a single day that I didn't think about her. Sometimes even fourty-fifty times a day (not exaggerating). Few weeks later I found out she has a boyfriend. I was down but still didn't give up. About a month ago she broke up with him. The point is, there's an other guy which she lately hangs out with, he seems to be cute and funny and all that shit, and they really look like a couple when they're together .. and it happens quite often. I do talk to her, and when we talk it's usually kinda smoothe and all, but sometimes I feel she's abit cold to me. I'd have taken it as an "I'm not interested" and move on, but the fact that she does look at me, does seem to show kind of interest, is holding me on. I'm used to see her with other boys, I don't care about it that much, but this case seems abit different... She means everything to me, and I'd give everything just to be close to her I'd appreciate it if you'll give me a few points to think about, as my problem isn't self-confidence or this other crap, it's just that when I think what to do I just can't concentrate ..... cause of her (..Thanks for reading)
Make the girl chase you and not the other way, pretend to be less interested and make her believe ur not interested, then tease her and tell her what you wrote "couldn't take you off my mind for like a week, how dare you missy" shit like that
shit like that ahhaaa she might just be shy i mean whenever boys at my school used to talk to me i would always have my guard up and people would say i was cold but then when i let go of alll that they would just think im a crazy crackhead or something anywayssss aha i dont think she would chase you though like he said above ahaaa that works for some people but most girls like it better when you give them attention but not clingy maybe you should compliment her :]]] so she knows you like her or at least has a little idea that you look at her like that and then see what she does
You're right, she might be shy. She might not chase me either. Look, she's not dumb. I believe I gave her enough signs (looks saying stuff etc) that she can know more or less how I feel. I can compliment her as you said, it's too easy in her case. But I doubt there will be a drastic change after that, if at all. Other than that I'm already doing what you said these last few months I'm not usually like this but I'm considering letting it go .. I almost never give up but I got feelings too
if she's already got more going on with another guy then i would move on, at least for the time being. you could try to be "the hero" and do a little something special to tell her how you feel, in a different way, but generally once a "woman" has established even the slightest personal connection with a guy she will not let it go until he makes sufficient mistakes and / or until she decides to become, on some level, and specifically, physically involved with another guy, at which point and in which case she would then disconnect her emotional connections from her previous partner. i would also suggest moving on, because, you're only 16 years old and (and this is some good inspiration for guys your age) there are tons of girls around you right now that want badly to have a boyfriend (among other things ... ) whether they're making it apparent or not. to put it another way: this is one of the best times in your life; don't hesitate to "test the waters" in school and around your town and what have you. just do it, and in the meanwhile be observant of girls around you as sometimes even in the most unsuspecting times they will give you a sure sign that they're interested in you; you don't want to realize all of these things in retrospect, trust me. so basically, get over this one, at least for a while, keep your chin up and stay sharp, and start doing what you really want to do now 'cause this is definitely a time.
so lets get this straight... you haven't really even spoken with her and "she means everything" to you? this might be a stupid question to you but for those with no back ground in your life... ask yourself this are you more physically attracted to her? she might seem like your everything but i mean if she is giving you the cold shoulder even when you want to talk to her she sounds like a bitch. move on. both ways try and forget about her, if she likes you she will come to you, after you make it clear that you like her (i wouldn't tell her) if you decide to go for it. if she doesn't do anything why would you wanna be with someone who wouldn't like you back, and if not moving on is the only other thing. good luck please let us know what happens.
@chocho - so far didn't work @kansas - from what I know her she's not that shy, and obvisoually not a crackhead @ Little bird- I did speak with her, and more than abit. I said so because of two reasons which are obvious - it's not all phisical like you say, even though I've never seen someone like her (and will probably never see), she's always nice .. seems like even when she doesn't really mean it.. and she's really smart It doesn't matter though, I know she doesn't feel the same way. I'm trying to move on but no matter what I do she's like everywhere You might think I'm crazy but I even went to the mall, (thought about her ..like usually) and suddenly I saw her going by with her friend I know that I must move on, but I just can't and it's killing me
dude i was saying im a crackhead. aha but not really anyways yezz aww thats so cute she should like you back you dont have to move on completely but just realize that it might not work out
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