Hi guys, I'm new. I'm a bisexual female, though I tend to lean more towards other women. However, I'm with a great man right now who is madly in love with me...but I want to be with woman, and he wants a monogamous relationship. We really are great together, and he makes me happy in so many ways, including sexually, but I still have this desire to be with a woman. I don't want to leave his purely because he has a cock and I want breasts more than cock, but I don't know how much longer I can remain faithful. Part of me considered just having a couple flings and not telling him, but I know if he found out (and he's smart, he would), it would break his heart, and it kills me to think about doing that to him. What should I do!?!?
Do you love him? If so, maybe you should talk to him about your feelings. As a guys I can tell you that a lot of guys get off on girl on girl sex. He may dig it. Talk with him and see where his head is. I can tell you that insercurity is an issue. If he does not feel threated by your interest in girls there should be no problem. If my wife wanted to make it with another woman, as long as she was in my bed at night it would be alright with me. But, that is just me. The most important part is communication. Talk with him, please. <(^_^)>
He accepts that I'm bisexual, and doesn't really have a problem with it, but while I'm with him, he wants it to be solely with him. I do love him, very much, but monogamy is something I'm having a really hard time with. We have talked about this a alot, but it always comes down to "it's your decision" (he says that to me). He seems to think that it will be easy for me to walk away from him...ever...I want him, but I want other people as well...and if I get other people (mostly women), then I loose him!
I know what you mean about monogamy. As a bisexual guy, I meet other guys that I would like to play with. While my wife know that I am bi. And I have talk to her about my fantisies. I am not sure if she would understand if I acted on those feeling. I think she would if she was also attracted to the same guy. But I am afraid if I jumped into bed with some other guy, and she found out about it, she would be hurt. So I force myself to be faithful. That not hard for me because I am a bit shy. And I have not been hit on by another guy in a long long time. The problem would be if I was to meet someone who wanted to have sex with me, and told me so. My resistance to that can be very low. Especially if I thought the guy is cute. Cute guys turn me on. If you relationship with your guy is important to you. And, you think he would be hurt by you fooling around with another gal, I would say stay ture. And be happy. <(^o^)> "A good love is hard to find."
Easier said than done, to be sure. Growing up, I was that ugly awkward teenager, and then I hit eighteen, got breasts and less acne, and all of the sudden - BOOM! I've got every guy in my graduating class crawling all over me! At that same time, I was becoming aware of my sexuality enough to come out (I'd been questioning for three years prior). And now i'v recently moved from my conservative and tiny ass hometown to Tucson, AZ, which is very queer friendly. I've got more than one woman who I'm "just friends" with, and respect that I'm with someone else, but I more than casually making passes and making comments such as "why don't you dump the boyfriend and come home with me?" After such an awkward childhood and teenage years, just the proposition of it turns me on, and makes faithful so damn hard! Not to mention, an attraction to these women, and a desire to do just what they ask, despite how much I care for the man in my life. I want to do something crazy, but I'm terrified of regret so I'm afraid to take a chance, leave, and then a year down the road say to myself "you idiot, you let the best thing to ever happen to you slip away".
I hear you sister. I'm lucky I guess, at my age I don't get tempted much any more. But I do know what you mean. Like I said in my earlier post, my resistance to being propositioned is vary low. I have been successfully seduced by two girls, and one guy. In all of these situations I was away from home and sure that Val (My wife.) would not know about my indiscretions. I wish I could be of more help to you. I can only tell you that you should try hard not to burn you bridges behind you. However, like I said in another post: "Life is too short not to have fun." It's also too short to be up tight. To be a free spirit you have to be willing to let go. But you also have to be willing to ecept want come from that. Not much help, I know. I would just like you to be happy. I am willing to keep talking to you about these things if you like. "You can have a piece of my heart, you know you got it if it make you feel good." (This is ment in a loving and caring way.) Just so you have an idea who you are talking with, here is a picture of me. <(^o^)>
I agree with you. Being a free spirit, which I am, does mean some sacrifices. And I try very hard not to burn bridges. I've done too much of that already. Ah, and here is me.
Pretty blue eyes. I like the hair cut too. We have almost the same initials "JNW". I see you are a FireFly fan. I have the complete collection and the Serenity move. The Serenity test said that I am Zoe. I like that. My wife favorite episode is "Heart of Gold" I think that says something about her. She won't admit it though. But I think deep down she would like to fool around with other guys like we use to do. Hugs and kisses girl. I will keep checking in no this thread to see if you want to talk some more. I hope you do. I have enjoyed our conversation. <(^o^)>
Here's my advice: If you were straight, you would still be attracted to other guys and he is definitely still attracted to other girls. But he's making the choice to be monogamous to you, even though I'm sure he too would love to be with another girl from time to time. It's normal for people to still want things outside of their relationship, but we as humans have to learn to control that in order to be respectful. If you can't control it, end it right now in order to prevent hurting him.
*grumbles a little bit, then sighs* You're right. Why is the simplest answer usually the right one? Thanks. @ jnorton47 - As you saw (I assume my this you viewed my myspace profile), I'm River. When I got that answer I was slightly worried. M favorite episode is a tie between War Stories ("Take me sir, take me hard!" ) and Our Mrs. Reynolds ("But she was naked! And all articulate!") The movie was also amazing...("Start with the part where Jayne gets knocked out by a 90 pound girl, 'cause that's never getting old.") I...uh...am a movie junkie. My favorite website is the Internet Movie Database!
I think infinito's advice is good. You should take is in the spirit that it is given. As I have said before, I just want you to be happy. On another note, I too am a movie junky. Mostly action, sci fi, and fantisy movies. Can you send me or post a link to the "Internet Movie Database"? I tried to google it, but came up with too many sites. What are some of your favorite movie? <(^o^)>
Here's the link. Favorite movies? I'm really into "End of World Thrillers". "The Core" is one of the best I've ever seen. I'm a major Tolkien fan, so Lord of Rings, of course is a favorite. Star Wars, Star Trek a must see. (all of them!) "Independence Day", with Will Smith. "The Upside of Anger", with Joan Allen and Kevin Costner. I love all the classic Disney films...the Planet of the Apes movies...Musicals are fun, Fiddler on the Roof, Hello Dolly, Beaches, Chicago, Phantom of the Opera...I'm not huge into Chick Flicks, but anything with Sandra Bullock is great...oh! Cast Away with Tom Hanks, the Sixth Sense, most of Del Toro's films are great, especially Pan's Labyrinth...The Devil Wears Prada is great... Loving Annabell and the Truth about Jane are good 'alternative films"...Wolf Films puts out alot of good stuff. I'm very eclectic for the most part.
Regaurdless if it's a girl or guy you are attracted to, it sounds like you are just not ready to settle down, period. It may be difficult, but you may want to check your options before picking something that seems good right from the start. Just my advice on it.
Thanks for the link. I like any movie with Will Smith in it. Enermy of the State is one of my favorites. That a very edgy movie. The Lord of the Ring is great. I read the books many year ago. I am also into Herry Potter movies. I also like The Art of War, U.S. Marshal, I'm kinda into black action heros. "pant, pant". You know how it is. <(^o^)>
