Is it always up to the girl to decided when to have sex or a bj?

Say if i were in a car with my friend who is a girl....is there anyway to ask her to do it or road dome or is that just uncalled for since i am a guy? If a girl did it of course the guy would say yes but i am not too sure it would work the other way around.

 

i dont know man depends on the chickadee

some women are very in touch with their wild side and get turned on by this kinda excitement
another could look you dead in the eyes and tell you to fuck yourself
Id say just come straight out with it
Worst she can say is no right

 

It does depend on the girl... me... well my guy knows that he can ask me anytime at all and he will get it... sex on demand.... actually it is a turn on if he looks at me and says I want you to go down on me...hmmm....
if you want her too ask her... the worst that she can do is say no... maybe she wants you to tell her what to do...

 

I think it's a turn on when guys ask me for stuff. ;]
But, a lot of girls aren't as freaky as some of the girls on this forum.. Lol.
Depends. ;D

 

My way or the highway is so close to rape that the difference doesn't matter.

Here's the best way to go:

Drive down the road until you come to a secluded place. Pull off to the side, provided it's nowhere dangerous. She'll wonder what's going on. Tell her there's something that you've just got to take care of. At that point, transmission in park and parking brake set, emergency lights blinking, lower back your seat and whip it out.
"I'm sorry...Just being around you like this...I just can't take it anymore..." And start masturbating.

There's a 90% chance that she'll ask you if you want her to do anything...If she doesn't, don't worry. Masturbate to orgasm, say, "Thanks. I just really needed that," and continue on your way. She'll come around eventually.

 

Between this and your other post asking if you should text your friend to see if she would "maybe wanna fool around sometime", I can tell you this flat out: you're too timid with girls.

As far as it being "up to the girl", of course you want both parties to be consenting if you don't like spending time in federal prison. But depending on the girl's natural horniness level, it can sometimes be up to you to get her in the mood.

Be enthusiastic. Be confident. Do not be shy or ashamed to confess your desires, or it will give the wrong impression. Like all human emotions, sexual desire can be contagious, so long as you don't present your desires in a way that is immediately off-putting, your chances of successfully fulfilling them are dramatically increased.

Even after making your best efforts she may still not want to, or be in the mood, but don't take that personally. There can be any number of reasons for this, and they are all personal reasons that pertain to her, and not you. If this happens just respect her wishes, shrug it off, and carry on. Hell, now that she knows you desire (whatever it is you desire) she may even surprise you later on when she finally does get in the mood. So it can only help you to express it.

 

Continuing:

"Oh my God, would you?"

95% chance she'll know what to do and will commence.

If not:

"Like what?"

"Just touch it! Lick it! Suck it! Fuck it! Climb all over me, do what you want! I just need some touch! Having you so close to me like this, I just can't take it!"

Nearly 100% chance she'll ask you why. Don't answer. Just keep masturbating and making unintelligible moans.

1% chance she'll sit there and refuse to do anything. If this happens, never talk to her again.

Have your orgasm, take her home and write her off. She may still contact you a week or two later.

Follow this advice, and you'll almost certainly get something.

 

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Make sure you know her really well before attempting this...
If a guy did this to me, and I didn't know him very well I would take it really badly.
I'm a pretty kinky girl, too.
I honestly don't see this as the best idea...

 

He said she was a friend. But, yeah...It's probably not a good tactic for a first date.

 

not with me. i like a man who knows what he wants and can ask for it.