How to tell my wife

I love anal play. I have 2 big dildos and 4 plugs of large size and I use them at least 5 times a week. How do I tell my wife about this without her freaking out? I really want her to use a large dildo on me but I just do not know what to say or how to tell her I like this. I feel bad when playing with my toys because I feel like I am hiding it from her. Any help would be great. Thanks

 

Is she open minded? Or is she the kind of person that would freak out about this? Alot of women find it to be a incredible turn on.

 

Well, she has used anal beads on me a long time ago and she thought that was okay but I like the feeling a large dildo gives me. I am really thinking of asking her tonight before we start our foreplay. She is somewhat open minded but I know this could be weird for her.

 

Well if she thought it was ok before then she probably wont mind. Just be prepared for "omg that things huge!! How long have you been doing this?"

 

Thats what I am afraid of, she is going to think it is huge. It is only 8 inches but has a lot of girth and stretches me good but not as much I as like to get stretched.

 

As long as she's not insecure I'm sure she wont mind the fact that you play without her.

 

So wait.

How have you been hiding yr epic butt plugs from yr wife in the first place?

 

In my photography bag

 

hahaha

 

Sometimes these things turn out well, sometimes they don't. I remember when my ex jokingly brought up a strap on dildo, and I told her "that would be awesome", nervously in what I perceived as a harmless moment to bring up my desires. She gave me this deer in headlights look, like she was completely confused and disturbed. Over the phone she told me "you actually want me to put a dildo in your ass?" in a disgusted voice. It was a little traumatic on my end. The odd thing is, eventually she came around and actually LIKED the idea. I really don't get how she went from disgusted to excited in about a week but it happened. Unfortunately though we broke up before anything could happen with that.

 

My wife enjoys it. I enjoy it. I believe I brought it up jokingly at one point and tried to see where it would go from there. Several nights later we were at the store buying a strap-on... It probably is a little weird, but that all depends on your perspective I suppose.

We have been completely open about our thoughts and desires and fantasies for sometime, though that one was a little bit more iffy...

Bottom line... it depends on your relationship...

on a side note... what happened to the AIDS shirt toolmaggot?

 

wow you must have a big camera bag. But yeah she should be cool about it. She is your life partner and loves you so something that gives you pleasure she should be happy to try.

 

Good call.

 

There's one in my gallery.

I figured I'd switch things up a little bit. I like the eyeball one. It makes me feel like I can watch every single one of you pick yr noses naked in front of yr computer.

 

You are very cute.

 

Busted.

 

Dude, if it's that frequent she almost certainly already knows without you knowing she does. In any case, straight-up tell her. If it were me, I wouldn't be upset if my wife had a fetish, but I would be a little upset if she hid it from me for a while.

 

Maybe you should keep the "epic butt plugs" in the photo bag a little longer and introduce the idea to her with something smaller. Don't tell her you have been doing it all along, but rather introduce it as something new you would like to try. If she is willing, then express to her how much you like it and as you let her experiment more with you, work your way up to larger and larger toys until eventually (hopefully) one night you get to use the larger toys that you prefer. Ease her into it. She doesn't really need to know you have been hiding it from her all this time if you don't want to tell her.

 

^ What a douche ^

 

Why is that a douche thing? I think thats great advise, alot of women are very hurt when they find out that their men have hidden anything from them. If he starts to introduce it slowly, like it's a new thing for them to share it would be a very good way to avoid any un needed hurt feelings.