well...firstly im 20 years old...ive been with my husband for 8 years...we married a year ago and everythings been just fine...growin up my teen years i played wife...he lived with me while still in high school...we worked, went to high school, and to college at night...very responsible and mature for our age-other than me being so damn jealous...well same thing up until we moved out...and he started shift work and so i had to find things to do in my own time...i changed-no jealousy whats so ever-im happy i realised why be so damn jealous and frustrated all the time when you can instead just have a good time...well in the mean time i realised everything i missed out on growing up... i never partied...i never did ANYTHING ppl my age did...just being wifey...well now that i am a wife i really just am confused cause all i seem to want to do is party...is this just a phase will it pass over?? why am i so confused when im soo happy?
Uhh...you're confused because you've been with the same guy since you were 12! My guess is it won't pass over unless you get out a bit. If you don't address it, it'll just fester. You need to bring this up to your husband...and maybe look into marriage counseling. I hate to say it, but there's a reason why people who marry young have a higher divorce rate.
i've witnessed this a lot first-hand and unfortunately it always involved kids and mothers who treated them like door mats, and went out, partied and cheated on their boyfriends anyway. (i'm assuming you would've mentioned kids if you had them... please do the universe a favor and if you do decide to cut loose, don't have kids in the process, because they will not have a fair shot at life... no offense or anything.) it's only natural at your age to want to get out and "do stuff"... question is, what do you really want to do, would it be fair to him (and you), could you handle it / control yourself, would it wind up destroying the relationship? conversely, what's his deal? i know guys, and going by what you've expressed here it seems like the relationship may have lasted this long because you are perhaps rather submissive / idle in your ways and things of that nature, and that perhaps he is doing whatever he pleases, whenever. i guess what i'm getting at is that if he's out and about doing whatever, he's probably making pretty good use of his time... and if you're doing not much in the meantime, there might be an imbalance in the relationship that is worth addressing. not exactly an uplifting reply, but....
go party together? it's an option...unless you mean party= fucking someone else. then, well, be straight up with your guy.
Trying to read between the lines .... what do you mean by partying? Other guys? Flirting? Touching? Cheating? A close childhood friend hooked up with his future wife in 8th grade ... 13 or 14 .... and stayed together until she died a few years ago after about 50 years of a happy marriage. Good luck!
your young & should be out clubbing & having a good time both of you. i've been with my fiance since i was 17y/o, we like to do things together but we also have our own social life too. he goes out with his mates, i go out with mine, some times we all go out together & sometimes just me & my fiance go out. he is 7 years older than me, he did most of his clubbing before he met me, he dosent really like to do the drinking coulture that we have here in the UK any more but i do. he would never stop me from going out clubbing with my mates tho because he knows i enjoy it & he knows that i'll get bored of doing it one day like he did, its just what people my age do here. he even gives me some money to go out & have a good time with my friends. he likes to hang with his mates instead, watch football (soccer), play pool & just hang. social interaction with friends is important. we have to have social lifes away from one another otherwise our relationship together would become stale & boring. if you dont have many friends why not join a club, do an activity or find a hobby you enjoy. not only will learn something new but you could also find new friends which will open up all new avenues of life for you. but if you mean party as in fuck someone else then thats something you will have to sit down & discuss with your man.
