Seriously. I'm a 17 year old female virgin. I've never given a blow job and I'm scared I won't know how to, any help?
I have never given a BJ either, so at least we have that in common—Oh, but then again, I am a guy. In all seriousness, because I am a guy, I will relay to you some of the things that appeal to me. When I started to reply, I didn’t intend for this to be so detailed, so I apologize for the length, but I got a little caught up in the moment! First and foremost, I appreciate a very steady rhythm. To me, there is nothing worse than when a girl is giving me great head that feels excellent and then all of the sudden, she switches her technique. An orgasm from a BJ is a build up and it seems when a girl changes her routine, it’s like starting the build up all over again. Which brings me to my second point: time. I don’t know about others, but for me, it takes quite awhile for me to orgasm through oral sex. Your mouth / jaw may get very tired. Don’t get discouraged if the guy doesn’t orgasm after 10 minutes, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re doing anything wrong. If you are providing oral sex for a guy, keep in mind that it is for him. Yes, it would be nice if he were to return the favor, but that is another issue. My point is that you want to make it as pleasant for him as possible. Some things to keep in mind: don’t rest your body on his legs / stomach during the BJ, as that can be distracting after awhile; don’t take on the persona that you’re doing him a huge favor by blowing him; don’t zone out and act uninterested in what it is that you’re doing. As far as actual technique is concerned, it’s not that difficult to master. Obviously, you don’t want to scrape with your teeth. Be sure to use A LOT of saliva / spit…Lubrication is key to all sexual activities and a “sloppy” blow job with lots of saliva can be a huge turn on for the guy. Remember to appeal to his sense: Sight: He wants to see you—Wear something sexy for the BJ (or nothing at all) and don’t be afraid to make eye contact while you’re blowing him. Touch: Often, I like to reach out and touch the girl that is giving me head…Grab her breasts / nipples, smack her ass, or even stimulate her clit while she is blowing me. Sound: Refer to the sloppy blow job described earlier…Lots of saliva mixed with the vacuum sucking sounds will be sure to turn him on. Also, it can’t hurt to give out a little moan or two yourself – It sends the signal that you’re enjoying what you’re doing (don’t go overboard with the moans, just a whispered, “mmmm” or two). Which brings up another point, forgive me for backtracking, but when a girl sees a guy’s cock for the first time, it’s a big moment for him. Be gentle, as guys can be very fragile and hypersensitive when displaying their member to a new partner…A playful compliment, “mmmmm,” or “yummy” would be well received. Back to techniques: The very beginning of a BJ is your time to “play.” This play time serves two purposes: (1) it will feel good to the guy and is very visually stimulating, and (2) it will allow you to get familiar with having a cock in your mouth. Start by kissing the head of his penis…Soft wet kisses. Next, you may want to stick your tongue out (so that he can see it, appealing to his sense of sight) and lick up and down each side of the shaft…Don’t be afraid to get it as wet as possible. Look up at him, make eye contact, and smile. As far as the testicles are concerned, it is (literally and figuratively) a very delicate area. Many guys like to have their balls stimulated, but some don’t. I’d suggest stimulating his balls, but be very gentle (no hard kneading; handle with care). Personally, I like soft tickle-type touches on my balls. I also love when a girl darts her tongue in-and-out over them. Light sucking is nice as well. The key is to be gentle. Yet another “touchy” subject is his anus…Many guys like the girl to gently lick their anus after licking their balls…Again, this is a “taboo” subject and up to each individual taste. You may have an aversion to doing it or he may not want it done. Either way, it is an option and, speaking from experience, it feels great, but it’s certainly not a deal breaker if it doesn’t happen. After kissing the head, licking the shaft, and playing with his balls / anus, heat things up a little by spending some time on the frenulum (the area of tissue on the underside of the penis near the head, right under the foreskin). Don’t worry about the technical language or visibly seeing the area, just know that it’s there. This spot is loaded with nerve endings and begs for attention. Lick, kiss, and suck on this area for a short period of time and he’ll appreciate it. It would also be a good idea to reach down and touch yourself a little. It's a great visual for the guy and it sends the message that having his cock in your mouth is turning him on. At this point, you’re going to want to feel what it’s like to actually have a cock in your mouth. It is now that I would suggest taking his member into your mouth as far as you can without hurting him (by scraping him with your teeth). You just want to get an idea of his length and see how far you can insert it into your mouth comfortably. I’ll be honest, the deeper that you go, the better it feels. Still, don’t let that mislead you because if he is big, you’re not going to be able to deep throat him (only a small percentage of girls can do this successfully with a big cock). The key is to find how far you can take him in without causing him discomfort…I will sacrifice a girl deep throating me poorly for a girl that knows her limits and gives me a good BJ (even if she can’t take it all the way in) every time. Okay, you should now be familiar with having a cock in your mouth, so play time is over…Remember that steady rhythm that I mentioned earlier? Once you are done playing, it’s time to accomplish what you’re there for. This brings up the big “hand versus no hands” debate. Personally, unless a girl is very good at giving head, your hands are a necessity. After you get experience and know what a particular guy likes, you might be able to get him to orgasm without using your hands, but I wouldn’t try that your first time. Have you ever provided a hand job before? You want to lightly grasp his shaft with your hand. Please remember to keep your grip loose, as you want it to slide (which is another reason that lubrication / spit helps a great deal). Slide your hand up and down his shaft in a steady rhythm. Your hand will guide your mouth and vice-versa—On the down stroke your mouth will trail your hand and on the upstroke your mouth will lead your hand. You want to create some suction with your mouth to increase the sensation for him (do not feel embarrassed if you smart making “sucking” noises, as guys find these noises a big turn on). At this point, you want to follow his nonverbal clues and simply continue until he cums. As I said, I find that a steady rhythm is vitally important in order for me to orgasm (personally, I like it slow and easy, not fast like a jackhammer). Some guys prefer for the girl to speed up when they are about to climax, but that is a personal preference. Okay, onto the BIG SCARY part…Orgasm! First of all, do NOT be afraid of ejaculate! It is a normal bodily function and is not harmful. Fair or unfair, almost every guy in the world hates when a girl stops short on a blow job. There are acceptable alternatives to swallowing, but I strongly suggest sticking to the tried and true method of swallowing. If there is absolutely no way that you will / are able to swallow, at least allow the guy to cum on your bare breasts or face. No guy wants to see his sperm land on the floor or watch it get spit out. First of all, when a girl swallows, it actually feels better. Hear me out on this…You have established this nice rhythm and built a guy up to this release…Instead of continuing, you abruptly pull your mouth away and it ruins the best part of a BJ (where did that nice warm mouth that was making me feel so good go?). Secondly, think about what it’s like for a guy to provide oral sex to a girl. We encounter your bodily fluids the entire time that we are down there. My point is that sperm is sperm that is sperm. The flavor, amount, and intensity of a man’s ejaculate varies depending on the person (it has very little / nothing to do with the size of his penis). Every guy is different, so no one can prepare you for the first time that you taste / swallow cum. I can only speak in generalities…Most guys don’t cum that much, so it’s not like taking a shot from a shot glass. Yes, sperm does “shoot” out, but it’s not anything more powerful than drinking from a squirt gun. I really can’t speak to the taste. Perhaps another poster can talk about what it’s like to swallow because I have never done it! Just relax and don’t get too freaked out about the swallowing part; it’s natural and I have never heard of a girl dying from choking on sperm (although, I am sure that it has happened). Also, I really like when the girl stimulates my balls when I am about to climax...Gently cusp them and pull them up a little! Lastly, it’s time to finish the blow job. After a guy climaxes, he is SUPER-sensitive. Don’t pull away immediately because the guy won’t feel “finished.” I would suggest just leaving your mouth on his head and allow him to pull away first. If he wants you to suck lightly ("milking" him empty) he’ll leave your head there. If he is too sensitive and completely done, he will quickly pull himself away. When he pulls away, give him a wet smile and again, give him a cheesy compliment like, “yummy.” Also, a girl will score bonus points with me if there is a trace of cum on her lips and she licks it off and then smiles. Well, there you have it. I didn’t intend to be so detailed. Remember, each individual is different, so some of the specifics that I mentioned may not work for every guy out there, but the general statements will hold true. Since I took the time to type this, it might be nice for me and our fellow readers for you to come back and give us a detailed account of how your first time went! Good luck…
I think the easiest way to explain how best to do it is to remember what is actually happening. Your mouth is literally taking the role of a vagina (ideally with your tongue pressing against the glans, as with the inner vaginal muscles, on each thrust), and if you can control it accordingly, following his body language then you won't go far wrong. As additional points, a simultaneous contra movement with one hand along the shaft can help greatly - that is as your mouth pulls away, then perform a thrusting stroke along the shaft towards the base & vice versa. Also, it probably goes without saying that you should also have the other hand massaging his testicles at the same time.
I not sure I can add anything to the descriptions above, just do it cos you want and relax and enjoy it. You should have a feeling of satisfaction after the event, i know I do when I give my gf an orgasm through oral sex and I know she enjoys pleasuring me the same way. It always gets better with practice.
while you're at it, stick your finger in his ass right before he cums, and keep going after. Don't stop at the first sign of semen. he won't know what hit him.
Seriously. Be straight with your guy. Words like this would work with me, "I really want to give you head (don't say blow job) … but I’ve never done it before so I’ll need you to show me and tell me how to give you the most pleasure.” If he’s a halfway decent guy he will understand and give you gentle guidance. If he’s a jerk it doesn’t matter what you say or do. If he doesn't ask for it, wait until you hove given him a few blowjobs to orgasm before trying MaryJohn's suggestion. Make sure your finger is lubricated ... spit or your own juices ... and lightly touch him there first ... make sure he isn't gonna freak out ... some guys think that any anal is gay. If he's okay with anal, at the moment of his ogasm, massaging his prostate as your milk the semen out of him should sent him inot orbit! Good luck! Have fun and play safely!
A few things that I DON'T like: Teeth Strong sucking Stopping and talking Spitting Stopping at the first drop of sperm (a common error!) If you don't like sperm in your mouth then just let it run out. Have a towel nearby.
wow a short novel, i think that is about everything. good luck. don't worry i was really nervous when i started i guess a little more than 6 months ago, and i got it almost perfect second time round. every guy is different. maybe stick to the basics. i think a finger up the a$$ might surprise some... but ask him after the first time even if you don't wanna do it before and ask what else he like etc. good luck i would also love to see how this turns out.
hm, ok, so maybe it make sense... But I prefer with the girl's hand on my legs, or belly, or wherever, and during this time she just guve me pleasure with her lips and tongue. I also prefer to be in her mouth rather all the liking / kissing play... I take the blowjobs very seriously! ;-)
at the very base it's ok... But if you keep him in your mouth, it won't go away.... But holding it at the base especially when you make au pause is nice
sucking on a popsicle is good to practice on and tasty too, so when it comes time for the real deal those oral skills will give you a head start so to speak...just like another flavor.
