I don't compare myself to others

Thank you.

 

can i see you first thing in the morning?

 

clothes and keeping your hairs neat are the demon

you notice this people

are always concerned about how they look

they be all like "is my hair messy?"

"is my beard cut straight?"

"i have to make sure my nose hairs are all plucked"

etc

 

I wear what I wear and stuff for MYSELF.

 

I care but I dont care overly.
I dont want to fit in. But i want to look alright.
Course having said that, I dont bother alot of the time.
Like with hair. I have slightly greasy hair right now.

No one cares. And those who do, suck.

 

dr. seuss said it best. those who matter dont mind and those who mind dont matter.

 

dr seuss is cool

 

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I am far from rich my $1000 suit was given to me I would never pay that much for a garment...

 

I very seldom limit myself and I am not trying to be different. I really do not care if you don't like my clothes. I like my clothes to be comfortable. I don't like wearing high heels or make up. I realize some times I have to think about impressions that others may have.

I wish it were not true that people judge by the clothes instead of the heart.

 

I agree. I have stopepd getting my nails done weekly because it seems so silly to me. I get mani/pedis during the summer so my feet look pretty and before trips, job interviews etc.
I still can't stop my Aveda highlites/lowlites and hair cuts though. I know I could feed one of the families I work with for a month for what i pay at Aveda. I would like to become a box color kinda gal. Maybe I can try a semi-permanent at home and just keep the haircuts? Something to think about.

 

truer words have ne'er been spoken. i compare myself to people. i try to keep it at a healthy level, as with everything in my life... a mean between the extremes. moderation. i think it is almost as bad to NEVER compare yourself to people as it is to OBSESS about how you compare. it's good to get a little perspective.

anyway, sounds like the OP is a damned liar to me, no one looks sloppy in a thousand dollar suit. and no one buys a thousand dollar suit who doesn't compare himself to other people....

 

yeah, i stopped going to the salon and dyed my hair all one color - my natural one. i trim my bangs myself. saves a bundle and makes me feel a bit more human.

 

I am trying to point out that I am the same person regardless if I have on a $1000 suit or overalls.

It kinda cold in here.

 

Yeah I don't compare myself to others as much as I used to, looks or otherwise. I wear and buy the clothes I enjoy wearing.

And frankly a girl in jeans and a shirt is darn sexy. Too much makeup is a SERIOUS turn off for me.

 

Everybody compares themself to others subconsciously and act on it. If you do it consciously it's not like you're immediatly worrying about how much you're like someone else, or you're looking to conform to the norm right away. It's how you act on those comparisons. Using them to conform to the norm is just as silly as piercing yourself to shit and wearing the strangest clothes you can find to make clear you're not like them, in my opinion. You should only do it if it feels right, not just because it feels righteous. But I fully understand and agree with your point :cheers2:

 

If I work somewhere that requires I wear a uniform I wear it.

I do not intentionally dress to be different. I dress so that my body is covered and to not be seductive.

Still people like to guess what is underneath my clothes cause they can tell I am not fat or thin. Men are intrigued because they can tell I am not trying to attract them women get angry and jealous because men want to talk to me even though I do not try to be seductive.

 

"I don't compare myself to others."
In a way I think that the need to announce that to everyone would signify that you do 'care', and you do compare yourself to others. You're making the comparison that you are unlike many others because you 'don't compare yourself to others.'

 

Actually someone was trying to tell me that I need to be more like they are and it started me thinking that to be like someone else would completely throw me off my path. So I thought I would blog about it here and get some feed back...

I compete and compare with myself to do a better job. I do not compare my abilities with someone else's. If they are better than me that is okay with me. I will still strive to be a better me not more like them. Now occasionally I do find someone that I really like the way they do something that I also do and I may try to emulate them in some way. If some one can show me a cleaner easier way to do something I am on it.

Ideally I set my on goals for myself. I think about what does the most good for all while I work. I am not afraid of my flaws I don't try to cover them up. I may have physical features that if someone else had the same feature they may work to make that feature LOOK more visible. I get a lot of flack from others about why do I not try to use what I have to make myself more attractive and noticed. I do not wish to be noticed except by the very aware.

Good is good no matter what the wrapper looks like. People either recognize it or they don't. Some people have a taste for what is good and some do not. Some people seem to prefer something rotten on the inside because of how it looks on the outside. I suppose there is some comparison there indeed.

I know I am not always good and I don't want to be deceptive about it either. I would rather surprise someone with goodness than mislead them by trying to look like I am good to their eyes. I choose to relate to people who are blind to how things "look" because I know for sure how deceptive looks can be. There would be no TV if looks were not deceptive.

I told someone the reason I do not dress up and wear make up is because I do not want men falling on the ground begging me to notice them. That really made her mad. I know a lot of women can not resist to have this kind of power over men. I do not wish to be viewed in this way. I do not need to be noticed in order to get my job done.

There is one man in my life and I love him dearly. He is not the jealous type at all. Sometimes It is fun to dress up and go out with him and people notice us shinning on a dance floor but, then we can't stay out long cause of the excitement we just want each other and have to go. I only want my man attracted to me not every one.

 

Why would there not be TV if looks weren't deceptive? Images give information as well, and of course, they can entertain us.

 

An honest person that knows the truth could not stand for it. An honest person would not waste their vision on TV. An honest person knows they can't always believe what they see. Do you really believe those microwave toaster pastries are good? Even if you know they are not good there is a part of your brain that is seduced by the image. So I guess it depends on what kind of information you want going into your brain.

TV can make the masses believe anything...because they believe what they see.