Do any women have insights they gained from being with a man before and after the man has actively exercised his kegel muscles? My wife and I are in our mid twenties and have an active sex life, we have not been able to have her reach orgasm though and she can not reach it on her own(so that is one area we are working on). One of the things that she has mentioned that I could do to help is to maintain an extremely strong and large erection for longer, she has also said that she would enjoy if it I could swell and flex my penis they way I do as I get closer to orgasm for the whole duration. I can maintain this state for maybe 10 minutes max now and she would like me to regularly maintain it for 30 minutes. Do you have experience where the ability of a man being able to maintain this level for a long time helped you to orgasm when you otherwise could not? Do you have ideas of exercises that could help me develop this strength? Since she has mentioned this I have been flexing, “fluttering”, and contracting and holding my PC muscle as I have read to do elsewhere. Any input (or just stories) from people would be great!
Those exercises of the muscle behind the primary sex glands control the amount of semen released and also urine. What they do in a woman I do not know. Not applicable here, 'cause his wife knows what she wants. They lead to a better sense of 'control' of the penis itself, although I personally think they can't control an orgasm beyond a certain point. Ikeness, I think I hear very little about 4play, which lasts longer and over which you have a hell of a lot more control. A finger can work on the "G" spot while the tongue goes to town on the clit. This after a couple of trips around her body, including rimming nipples and ass(hole.) That direct "G" spot action which she is asking for requires much more time, and I doubt any man can conquer that mountain with his penis alone. She knows what she wants, but you apparently have shown her only the penis side of your manhood. Get with the program dude, tongue and fingers, hands and feet. Whole body movement, suprise, and a lttle rear action with the fingers to start, longer on the nipple, and then the desent to the 'Gates of Heaven,' as the Chinese call the labials. It is most difficult to satisfy a woman on the rough patch of the G spot with a penis - however massive. It just doesn't work that way. She also sounds a bit uptight about her response, which of course is self fulfilling. Pretend like you're having trouble getting it up and holding it. That'll relax her a bit. Also force you to use other tools. We rely too much on our dicks. They're great for transporting semen/seed from boy to girl, but not as useful in getting the two of you up for it.
The trick? IS IT THE TRICK? The trick has fascinated and enthralled me for years, and will continue to do so until they day I die.
Yes men can kegel... it sounds like a funny dance. Though, I would imagine... male kegel exercises affect his experience more than hers...
If your wife is having problems having orgasms to that extent I think you should perhaps talk about seeing a sex therapist?
Heck yeah! My bf didnt have the greatest control for a while and then he started doing kegels-- uses www.kegelcoach.com and I can tell you for a fact that his control is VERY much so improved. He goes like an olympian now... lol. Hey, a weak muscle... any muscle.... is not going to do much for you. Funny thing too is that he works out in the gym a lot but nothing really hits that muscle (I forget the name right now) like kegles do. Well if youre wondering I do them too and HE notices it. Good luck!
