I Don't Think I've Orgasmed. ):

I'm only 18, and I've been with my boyfriend for about three months. We're both still virgins and we're waiting for that right time (We've done everything together but actual sex basically).

I don't think I've actually orgasmed. I mean, I'm pretty new to this, but I just don't think I've orgasmed from clitoral or oral stimulation from him. It feels really really good, but nothing that will drive me crazy. I feel really bad, but I figured the reason is because he's also quite new to it a well. I myself don't know how to tell him what to do, because I don't really know what's good.

Ahh. I feel silly. But I guess it would be nice to experience an orgasm. Is it really that hard to reach?

 

I have always had problems with it as well. I always felt broken. I have learned a few tricks though, including to just let go. I was always so tense, even during sex, & determined to acheive an orgasm that it never happened. Just let yourself go. I have also found for myself that it is much easier for me to have one when I am with a woman opposed to a man. But that is just my personal preference of course....

 

I think what you should do is lock yourself in your room, and explore your body. Find out what feels good, and keep doing it. Look for things that feel even better. Try touching, squeezing, rubbing, pinching, flicking. Even play with your nipples. Do everything you could think would feel good. After a while of trying, you'll probably find your way to an orgasm. You could try placing your clitoris onto the corner of a table, desk, or dresser, move back and fourth a bit but focus on pressure. Even try to finger yourself while doing it. When I was younger and more new to masturbating I found that to be the best way for me to orgasm. Just get to know your body more, and you'll figure out what an orgasm feels like. Then you can tell your bf what feels best, and he can do it for you. ;]

 

What I would like to know is why women think having an orgasm is easy or like everybody is having them except you ?

I believe orgasm is reasonably rare.

I'm sure there are women who die that have never had an orgasm.

 

Relax. That is the key for a lot of women.

My advice to young ladies is to find an experienced man (hint hint, girls) and give yourself to him. Let him ravage you. Us older guys tend to find the majic spots!

 

ok, are you listening? I'm going to give you the answer.

Get a vibrator.

Start with a pocket rocket. portable, and powerful. I love using one on my wife.

(stock up on batteries.)

 

You're not a woman.
You know nothing.
Stop trying to make people think most women can't orgasm.
Maybe it's just you that can't make them orgasm.

 

I thought a pocket rocket was a camping stove.

 

LMFAO.

;]] You made me laugh.

 

Your not a women.

Your right I'm not a women.

You know nothing.

This statement is clearly biased and incorrect, eveybody knows something.

Stop trying to make people think most women can't orgasm.

I'm not, I think a real intense orgasm is very rare, that doesn't mean its not impossible to achieve.

Maybe it's just you that can't make them orgasm.

Well clearly that is not the case, I've been with 4 women that had an orgasm, 3 mild orgasms, and one very intense orgasm.

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I believe every women has the potential to have an orgasm.

There could be for many reasons why women don't orgasm, the most common reason why women don't orgasm, is poor technique by the man.

I also believe women let men lead and their (mens) primary objective is to ejaculate, I don't think ejaculating is what men should be aiming for.

The goal should be to get the women to orgasm and then get off on the orgasmic wave that produces the incredible spasmodic contractions in the vaginal barrel and that is what really sends a guy through the roof.

The other thing that makes it better for the guy is the fact that he has waited for so long and the guy will be in a heightened state of arousal because he been forced to wait for so long before she is ready.

I pretty sure I had what is referred to as "lovers balls" just before she allowed me to enter her prior to her orgasm, so in reality both the women and the man are very highly aroused even before the guy is allowed to enter the female.

This is what makes the orgasm for both the man and the women so incredibly intense.

Because the guy and the girl are at this intense state of arousal they are both saturated in dripping sweat which makes it so easy to slip up and down on each others torsos and of course a women is saturated around the vulva opening and also the vaginal barrel.

Please don't think I'm attacking women when clearly I'm not.

You only have to look at the polls that say that a percentage of women are faking orgasm - so as not to upset their partner.

Unfortuantely us humans are so incredibly sensitive about this subject, its like a like running through a mine field.

Maybe I didn't approach the subject cautiously enough.

 

No you don't infact you come across as a prick. You correct women on a topic that you have no fucking idea about. You aren't a girl, therefore you have no fucking right to tell me how intense my orgasm is. . You are not gods gift to women, and which ever girl told you that you were was lying.

Plenty of women orgasm, and if you look at like 90% of the threads here women think that faking it is a BAD thing. Christ, you don't know about how orgasms happen in women or what they feel like so maybe you should stop correcting us eh?



To the OP:

Go with the vibrator idea, they are SOOOO good.

 

That's ridiculous. You just have some stereotype of what women's sexuality is about from something you've read in books (probably some old-fashioned feminist stuff).

Most women can and do have orgasms, and like the poster above said, the ones that don't are at least able to.

Some women's orgasms are weak, some strong, and each woman's varies some (maybe quite a bit) in intensity. Just because a woman didn't have the type of orgasm you think she's supposed to have doesn't mean she didn't come.

 

I thought that I would also add that it's men with stupid expectations such as you ben, that cause women to have a very negitive outlook on their sexuality. You can make women think that they aren't orgasming when really they are. Not to mention the self esteem issues you'd cause.

 

Oh, yea, they feel SO SWEET> So sweet, in fact, that they're addictive!

 

Oh I didn't expect so many replies! =o

Ohh, I do have another question. When you orgasm, do you actually know that you orgasm? Is it like, obvious?

Haha. I feel so naive. D:

 

Sometimes I do, like sometimes it takes my face off, then sometimes I feel my muscles down there contracting and I feel relaxed after with no real pleasure just a great afterglow.

 

i find it really easy, but thats coz my boyfriends great in bed.....but i only usually orgasm during actual sex, so maybe thats why u havent....once u have full sex it wont be long before you're getting it im sure! and you will know!!!

 

my ex was very fond of her rampant rabbit

 

Very good point. Some orgasms can be almost unnoticeable (like when I've had a long masturbation session and come a large number of times-later in the session they can be like you're describing or quite weak).

 

It sure seems like you should know your own body before you can expect someone else know it for you. I'm far from being an expert on how to pleasure women but I do know everyone needs something some what different. So once you find out what works for you, you can pass this information on to your lover. Masturbation is fun fun fun.