Advice would be nice!

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by spirit of the night, Nov 15, 2008.

  1. spirit of the night

    spirit of the night Senior Member

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    Hey, ok so there is this guy I think i like, I'll call him Doug.

    Ok so back in october when I thought I was gay I met Doug through a friend, I thought he was nice, we did'nt say much to each other, then a few days later my friend (I'll call her Abi) told me that Doug liked me, but I told her kindly that i was not interested because i thought i was gay (I still feel bad about this). We met up once because he was at a party with me and Rob, we were cool with each other. we are quite similar I must say.

    6 months later I find I am not gay, just bi, and go out with another friend of Abi's, the guy I went out with (I'll call him Rob) also knew Doug.

    Now I find myself liking doug, I've always felt bad about how it turned out (I tell him I'm gay then go out with his friend).

    It ended with Rob in august (whole other story). But would it fuck everything up if I went out with doug? I don't think they are very close friends. My ex friend went out with my ex only 3 months after we broke up, so would it be the same thing if I went out with doug?

    I think Doug would be open to it, he does call me "my lovely" on msn :p.

    I'm going to talk to Abi about it, but any thoughts on this would be great,
    thanks :) I really dont want to hurt any one.

    blessings
    xxx


    UPDATE!

    i asked abi about it, and she was really cool with it, interested.

    i asked her if doug was friends with rob and she said they werent, i guess they just vaguely know each other.

    ah im scared.

    xxx
     
  2. OldTroll

    OldTroll Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    Might be a good idea to let it cool for awhile.
     
  3. spirit of the night

    spirit of the night Senior Member

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    yh i know, your right, just wanted to see what everyone thinks of this situation.

    im not going to do anything rash.

    thanks :)

    blessingsxxx
     
  4. MaryJBlaze

    MaryJBlaze eleven

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    lesson here: don't be so quick to force a label on something in the future ie; your sexuality...title your phases such as curious phase, girl phase, etc....but always leave room for change to avoid strange situations like this.
     
  5. spirit of the night

    spirit of the night Senior Member

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    yh ive learned that lesson definitely, oh the joys of life.

    xxx
     
  6. Shmi Skywalker

    Shmi Skywalker Member

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    I'd say go for it.
    Are you worried that he was upset that you went out with Rob after turning him down?
    Sounds like he still likes you anyway.
    x
    Shmi
     
  7. spirit of the night

    spirit of the night Senior Member

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    thanks, yes i am worried that he was upset or hurt that i wen out with rob after turning him down, but i asking abi if he was and i dont think it was a big deal but im not sure.

    i will keep you all updated.

    xxx
     
  8. spirit of the night

    spirit of the night Senior Member

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    lol! i think they kissed once :O

    i do pick em.

    xxx
     

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