Two of my female friends have lost a lot of weight in the past year or so. Its starting to scare me and a lot of my friends how skinny they look. I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to bring it up to them and help them with it. I know one of the girls is supposedly getting help already but she's not really showing it and the other girl isn't getting any help.
I don't really know what to tell you. I think it's just important to tell them that you are concerned about them and that you support them...I had some eating disorder times in high school and I feel like there's very little anyone could have said to have made me stop at the time cause it's a crazy weird psychological thing...But lots of people all the time would say they were concerned and make me food and what not and that helped cause I realised it was really upsetting other people and effected others then just myself...then again my issues what western guilt to the point of being unable to eat- so that was a whole different psychological dealy... Good luck though. It's super hard seeing people you love shrinking into nothing.
let them be and don't try to help them. they'll only appreciate your effort if they acknowledge they are 'anorexic' and want to get better.... which isn't very likely - atleast not right now.
Skinny ppl save money in Gas Mileage.. I had 4 fat ppl in my Chevy Cavalier taxed the engine so bad It killed the car..
I had a friend so severely Anorexic last year that she was hospitalized for fainting and got as skinny as 90 pounds. Honestly, there is not much you can do. It emotionally drained me to talk to her about it as well because she was in so much denial. She is healthy and happy now, currently 130 pounds. You need to decide to fight her or to not. Voice your concern that you think that she has gotten really skinny lately and that you want her to know you care and that you are there for her. I for a small while I had to stop talking to her.
weeeeeeeeeeeed seriously. get her fucking stoned. on a regular basis. have good food around, but healthy food. she wont be able to help but eat once in a while. turn her into a stoner
well not being able to help her is pretty fucked up i think. The one not getting help right now is not in a good state either. She's modeling right now which isnt helping the problem and no one really wants to bring up the problem. It's sorta personal for me too cuz we had a thing last year but i broke it off when i saw what was happening to her. Kinda selfish and stupid on my part but can't change that now.
This could backfire. Most don't like smoking because they have an tense fear of losing any sort of control.
As a woman who has suffered from both anorexia and bulemia, I will tell you this. You can talk to your friends (and please do!), but they are more than likely not going to see it as a problem. They will usually deny it, and many times, they won't want to change their ways due to fear of losing control/gaining weight. A person suffering from an eating disorder many times has a distorted self image. They will look in the mirror and see a "fat" person no matter how thin they are. Sad, but true. I have lived and live this life. When I see myself in the mirror, I don't see a thin person, even though I'm in a size 4, which is quite small. I tend to think the clothes simply run big. Which is silly, but that's how my mind works. Just the other day I caught an unexpected glimpse of myself on a security camera, and I had to stop what I was doing and stare. I thought, that's not me, I'm not that thin. But it's like, when I prepare myself to see a reflection, it's like I set my mind up to see something that isn't, the "fat" person. Does that make any sense? Whereas if I'm caught off guard by my image, I see my true self. My mind doesn't have the opportunity to play tricks on me when my image comes unexpectedly. This may or may not make sense to someone who has not experienced an eating disorder, I'm just trying to help those who haven't understand a bit. I'm not saying that you shouldn't address your concerns, because you most definitely should. Maybe they won't be so far gone that they can't see what they're doing to theirselves. But as the sickness progresses, it gets harder and harder for a person to realize. And the scarey thing is, eating disorders are serious business. I was never at the point where my life was in danger, but you see and hear of it so often anymore. So please do talk to them. The bad thing is, they have to want to change, to want to get the help. That's the hardest part. Oh, and for the record, I was a ballet dancer for many years and I also did some modeling during my adolescence. The ballet I never regret. Yes, I was painfully thin at times, but the modeling is the one that really did a number on me. Beat my self confidence into a bloody pulp. I have vowed not to ever let my own daughter go down that same path.
yeah thats why im not too stoked on the one girl doing modeling. I mean great for her but all it's gonna do in the long run is hurt her
Let me just say that anorexia is a state of mind (mental illness even), a skinny person isn't necessarily an anorexic. I have plenty of underweight friends who don't have eating disorders. Just throwing that out there since this term gets misused so much.
They most likely need professional help. It is difficult to predict how they are going to react. They may get upset or they may be in denial. I don't know how many anorexics wish to have someone tell them that they have a problem...
