This is a question for men who enjoy watching their wives have sex with other men, or who enjoy thinking about it. Nevertheless, anyone is invited to respond. In order to enjoy the thought or the reality of wife watching, do you need to be in charge of the event? That is to say, do you need to take the initiative, select the men, and so on? Does it matter that they are your friends? How would you feel if your wife told you that she wanted you to watch her have sex with a friend she made at work? How would you feel if your boss told you he wanted to have sex with your wife while you watched? How would you feel if he made it fairly clear that your future in the company would depend on allowing this to happen?
I'd be careful you didn't enjoy it right until the moment you realised some bloke was fucking your wife, because he can never unfuck your wife.
That's what I would do, but then again I do not find wife watching appealing. I find it puzzling. My hope was that men who enjoy watching their wives have sex with other men would respond to this thread. I want to understand them without passing judgment on them.