i thought guys are meant to be erect when getting shagged every gay porn i have seen they are all flaccid, what does it feel like to have ur braisn fucked out?
Well I can't answer the second part, but you don't have to be hard to enjoy sex, at least if you are the bottom. Personally, I find a lot of gay porn to be too hardcore and demeaning with at least one one the people involved. It seems to always be all about power and submission, which while part of any relationship, isnt the be all and end all. It seems to be all about the climax and not about the emotional connection, which some straight porn has. It's like the idea that hetero men cant be emotional has found its way into gay porn. One of the things I find most attractive about a relationship with another guy is the emontional attachment and connection. Some asshole fucking me for his own pleasure is not something i find attractive. I dunno...
Nope. There are no rules here. Some guys are hard; the others are not. At times, everyone behaves differently. His hardness (or the absence thereof) is not necessarily any indication of his being unhappy or dissatisfied at all. A good thing is to communocate with your partner (verbally and non-verbally, too) and help him enjoy it. It is equally important to part with the notion that you (regardless of being a bottom or a top) are solely responsible for the pleasure/orgasm of your partner. It takes two to tango and if a dude believes that he should just lay flat like a board and have someone bring him all the cosmic pleasures, he is plainly wrong.
