Do you think its possible to be in a serious relationship while still maintaining a best friend? The reason I ask is because lately, it seems that my best friend/house mate is putting a strain on my relationship. I've been seeing a guy for about 3 months and he's really great and I like him a lot. The problem is, he's getting a little annoyed with my friend being around so much. It shouldnt be a problem because she rents my basement apartment (therefore we both have seperate living quarters) however; she is constantly coming upstairs to spend time with us when he's over. I dont think it would be so bad if it wasnt EVERY single time he comes over. And the worst part, she's very depressed right now and kind of just brings us down. She's used to it just being the 2 of us, and seeing eachother/eating dinner together every night so she just assumes she's invited up everynight whether he's there or not. How do I get her to give me and my boyfriend space without losing our friendship? I always think about just being straight with her and telling her how it is, but how can i do this when she's so severly depressed right now? ahhh
just ask her to do something with just ylou. while your hanging out tell her you like having your bf/gf around with just you two only. go out more with your bf/gf then she cant come
the nice way to go about it, is to tell ur friend, that you and ur boyfriend, are having a few probs, and that you need time alone with him to sort things out, get a do not disturb sign and tell her when she see,s it on ur door, not to knock as u will be trying to work things out with him. as she is ur friend though and depressed try to make some prearranged time for her.
thanks you guys. and i guess now technically my boyfriend and i are having problems. or at least i am. yesterday i sent him a silly text that said 'i like you' and he replied 'and i'm a rambler and try not to get attached. you make it hard'.. so of course i take that as he's trying to tell me not to get attached to him. then i go over for dinner and we're talking about his friend's new gf.. and he says 'i dont know if i'd call her his girlfriend, he doesnt really have long term relationships, neither do i.' ok... On top of everything, he asked me to go over to his family's for thanksgiving. how can you tell me not to get attached basically while inviting me to meet your family?
I can see why you are having probs, your fella does seem to be giving mixed messages. Did you actually say to him---how can you tell me not to get attached basically while inviting me to meet your family? if not , maybe you should, some people are just looking for a little fun, but i get the impression your looking for a little more out of the relationship, so at the end of the day ,do you really want to be with some one, who has told you, he,s not serious about you?
that sucks. i hate feeling like while your in a relationship with someone and not knowing how they feel. I think communicating about it is a good thing. I agree that the family thing is sending mixed signals. good luck and i hope either way you have a good thanksgiving
