I have a question. I need to make a decision on something, and just wanted to see what other people’s opinions were on the matter. I’ve been with my girl friend for nearly a year and a half. We get on really well together and of course we have arguments now and then but we always manage to get through our problems in tact. Recently, she has had feelings of bi-sexual-ism which I am generally ok with. At the moment we are in a long distance relationship, I am living in Wales and she is living in Belgium; however that is not the issue. One of our friends who we had a threesome with once is going over to meet her, and today she asked for my consent if she can explore her bi-curious feelings with that friend. Some people might say ‘why does it matter if you’ve had a threesome with this person before?’ Well to me it is a different thing all together, the threesome we shared, and this we will not share. I am trying to weight up the pros and cons: It is important for her to explore her sexuality, however I am scared she may find that I am inadequate at love making in comparison. On the other hand, it might make her more adventurous in the bed room which is always a good thing. What do you guys think? Have you ever been in similar situations? If so, what decision did you come to? What decision would you come to if you were in my position?
I think you should let her know how you are feeling and makes sure she loves you before you let her explore. I say let her try it if she is fully commited to you. Tiffany
Ask her if you two can have a "guilt free weekend!" Either it works out and she gets to have fun, and so do you, and you both come back. or you both feel way to guilty and stay at home on the phone with one each other talking about how guilty you would feel
Thanks for the advice guys, it's much apprieciated I'm starting to sway towards saying ok, but i still need to let it mull over in my head for a bit. lol i had actually considered that
Just think about it for a bit, make sure that your confident in your choice, it would be awful to tell her ok then change your mind
I'd just let her do it. There's a chance she will do it anyway, and she may resent you telling her no. At least she asked you first.
:iagree: I know that whenever someone tells me no, I'm a little more apt to do whatever it is. If she is curious you need to let her explore. If not you take a chance on oppressing her sexually, something she might blame you for in the future.
