Help! It takes me way to long to Orgasm.

Okay, so I found my favorite toy when I was only two years old, and that was my penis!!! I started playing with it and masturbating even as a toddler. I did it before I went to sleep each night. I would lie on my stomach, and make a fist with my right hand, and I would hump my fist I guess. My fist rubbed my penis from the outside of my pajamas, and my penis rubbed my fist as well. And you could hear the bed-springs rocking, and my legs also slid up and down. I'd really get into it; of course I had no idea what I was doing, but I'd do it each night when I was alone, and I'd stop when I got satisfied. I think I had dry orgasms even at that young age. I didn't know what I was doing; I thought it was wierd and embarrassing, and shameful too. I always worried about being caught! I wouldn't dare want anybody to see me. Whenever my bedroom door would open up if I was doing this, my waste would jump off of my fist, and I'd turn real fast onto my back. I didn't want anybody to see or guess what I was doing, even though I was underneath a blanket; I would take no chances. Anyways, when I was two, I probably reached orgasm each night after a few minutes. In childhood, a bit longer. Then, as an adolescent, I was real horny, and I started getting erections in the bathtub, and I discovered masturbation with a hard penis and I started discovering other ways to masturbate. I started ejaculating, and had no idea what that was either. I still had no name for my activity; my mind just called it playing with my penis. I did it, always being worried about getting caught, and worried that if someone found out, how embarrassed and shameful I'd feel. As a child, I only masturbated with a soft penis, I didn't know what erections were. As an adolescent, I masturbated with both soft and hard penises. I got erections at school and was embarrassed about them; that someone would see it through my clothing. I didn't know what caused me to get erections, and for all I knew, I didn't even know what erections were, I had no name in my head for these pointing upwards and hard penises. I didn't know what caused them, nothing. There was not much information given about sex ed in my school, and my parents never talked about it. I didn't even know girls didn't have penises till I was at least ten years old! Anyways, I started masturbating more and more, and it started to take longer and longer to reach orgasm with ejaculation as I made it further into my teen years. And then when I was seventeen, only ten years ago, somehow I found out what masturbation was, and that it's normal, and I found out why I and what it was I ejaculated. I found out what those erections were. The knowledge of this, solved my curiousity issues, but caused me to think of sex and masturbation more, and I just started doing it even more. When I was two, I orgasmed once each night, and reached orgasm after only a few minutes. When I was eight, it had become several minutes. When I was twelve, it had become half an hour, and when I was eighteen, it started to take me fourty five to seventy five minutes to reach an orgasm and ejaculate. In my early twenties, it started to take an hour to ninety minutes to orgasm, and that's been consistent for the last few years. But now I'm 27, and for the last four or five months, it's taking me 2-4 hours, and usually 3 or 3 and a half hours to reach orgasm. I feel the need to do it everyday, although, I've started to only do it a few times a week within the last few years. I enjoy orgasms more if I do it less often. And as much as when I was younger, orgasms just came too soon, I enjoyed them; didn't know what they were mind you, but I did enjoy my routine play time before bed, and would want these sessions to last longer. Now they last long, but too long! I don't have three hours at any given day to do this, yet I feel the need. And when I'm masturbating; I can't stop till I ejaculate something, even if it's only a little bit. So, I either masturbate late into the night, or I get up real early to do it, and hope that I reach that point before I actually have to get ready for work. And I look at the clock while I do it, and get worried that I won't have enough time. So, I need help figuring out how to reach orgasm quicker, one hour to an hour and a half would be nicer! Also, in the last several years, I've had problems getting and maintaining erections. This started in my early twenties. I used to get them whenever when I was in high school, but after that, I could choose when to have them, and when not too, and now I just only get partial one's and I have to try real hard just to get them, and to maintain them, so usually I masturbate with a soft penis. Does anybody out there have any advice I can use? I wasn't sure whether to post this here, or in the men's health section, but I chose to do it here, and I hope I get lots of feedback.

 

I have the urge to ask this. Are you still a virgin? I really don't know what can help you with this. But after reading this I was wondering if you were. Maybe try prostate stimlation or even male masturbation toys.

 

Yes, I am still.

 

Thats really cool is there any reason why? I have been told that it is alot different when you have having sex with a partner. Maybe your penis has adjusted to having so much stimulation that it doesn't respond as well.

Tiff

 

lol

for real?

 

Yes, my story is for real.

 

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how did you not know girls didn't have penis's until you were 10? did you never go to the pool? try internet porn and find yourself a fetish.

 

ok, firstly i just want to point out that i found your story hard to read because it wasnt split up in to paragraphs, one solid block of text is extreamly hard on the eyes.

ok, so i just want you to know that many many men have errection problems in their life, 1 in 4 men over 16 have had some sort of errection problem in their life at least once. its nothing to be ashamed of & it can be sorted out.

most of the time its caused by stress, or distraction but there are other reasons why this could be happening.

its important that you visit your GP because errection problems can be a sign of certain health conditions such as diabetes, poor cerculation, kidney problems, high colesterol & many other health conditions.

many errection problems are psychological, there are many things taht can cause this, stress, relationship problems, depresion, sexual bordom, preformance anxiety.

preformance anxiety is the most common cause of errection problems. your anxiety of failure to ejeculate creates more anxiety & its this anxiety that blocks the errection.

i think a number of things are causing your problems at the moment, sexual bordom firstly, you have been pleasuring yourself the same way since you were two years old & it seems you havnt had any other form of sexual plesure, no intercourse, no blow job. you are probably bored of wanking so much. i know that if i did something every day the same i would quickly get board real fast. its the same problems couples sometimes have, they get in to a routine with sex, they do it the same night after night & they quickly get board.

i think your kind of stresed, your stresing your body out because you cant climax. this is causing you to have preformance anxiety. you dont want it to take hours before you climax, you hope you cum before you have to go to work & this stresses you out more. the more stressed you get the longer it takes & then you get more problems like not been able to get an errection.

i think you should defo go & see a GP, firstly to rule out any health problems that could be causing this & secondly to help resolve the psychological problems.

i hope this has helpped you.

 

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torz may be only 24, but he has his shit together on this one!

 

actually love, i'm female! but thanks for the complement

 

I apologize for the faux pas Torz!
How could I forget that you are a woman? I don't know whether to bang my head on the wall, or just hang it in shame.



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Well first see a Doc to get something done about you ED. Then it seems like you have sexual boredom. First try looking at porn. If you do already, try a different type of porn. And if you've never tried anal masturbation, try it. It can make a world of difference, and technically you're not gay if you do it, in case thats what youre worried about

 

Since you've been doing it for such a long time, I assume that your body is getting acustomed to the same sensations over and over. You're so used to it that it takes longer every time to reach orgasm. Try to take a break from doing it for a while, or try to spice up your experience. Find different techniques to use, buy masturbation toys, find a partner, etc.

 

I tend to have a similar problem, but that has mainly been put down to the medication I'm on for epilepsy. Other medications, such as anti-depressants & beta-blockers are also known to have the same sort of side-effects.

Curiously, though, I find that I can come to a climax easily enough when I am masturbating myself, but not when with a partner - which applies to all forms of sex, be it vaginal, anal, oral, or simply mutual masturbation.

You might think that it's simply a matter of when masturbating by hand I have full control over the pressure of squeeze, which I used to think might be the case - until I got my first FleshLight. Curiously, I often find that I can climax faster when using the FleshLight than I would be able to by simply using my hand - although it certainly does feel a lot better - but the FleshLight totally removes the control of pressure application, which all adds to the realism.

Personally I consider the FleshLight as an excellent sex toy - and probably the best one ever for men, but I have seen it advertised as a Sex Training Aid, which I suppose it could be taken as, but whether you consider it as a toy or as a training aid, it's still the best investment you could go for - every man should have one.

 

I'm so disappointed I can't masturbate into a pillow anymore since I read something called TMS or something like that online. It was the only way to get out my full load.

 

I'm thinking about getting one if I get the balls to order it.

 

Honey....why is taking awhile a PROBLEM........sex shouldnt ever be a race , lay back and ENJOY , and when it happens....it happens.