Really Good Friends

I'm having a bit of a problem. I have a really good friend, who I spend most of my free time with and we've been blazing and partying like every weekend for the past few years or so. Lately however, he's been getting sort of annoying at times in a bunch of different ways, and he's been being really stingy about shit, such as stealing cigarettes, borrowing a few bucks and not paying back when he said he would, never matching when the time is appropriate, making me smoke up his cousin when she never smokes me up, etc. etc. I like chillin with him because first of all hes my true nigga and we have fun and second of all we can basically do whatever the fuck we want when I chill at his house. I have a bunch of other friends that I like chillin with to, but I chill with him the most. What should I do?

 

Cut his kneecaps out.


Not really.


I dont really understand your question.


Please clarify.

 

Sometimes we don't know the hardships people don't speak of, even friends.
Maybe you need to get real and approach your homie, find out what is going on.
If he is your true friend, you will do what you can to help him.

If he is just being shady, a falcon punch is in order.

 

kill his family and eat his face

then he'll see whats up

 

Best post.

 

if he is a really good friend then you should be able to talk to him about this.

 

Mooch alert.

Your friend meets all the criteria. He doesn't pay you back, bums your cigarettes constantly and doesn't seem to smoke you up like a best friend should.

The first thing that needs to stop is loaning him money. I've always tried to be generous with friends but when they don't pay me back I never give them shit again. You should not be smoking up his cousin. Smoking up a few of your friend's friends is a good way to meet people but when they don't smoke you up then either they don't want to be your friend or just like to smoke free weed. I'm having a similar problem with my roommate (he doesn't smoke, it involves other things) and honestly I don't care to talk to him about it. I'd rather move out and tell my new roommate not to touch my shit.

If you don't want to straight up confront him about it then make a few hints that you want your money back and you don't feel like smoking up his cousin anymore. Don't take your weed when you hang out with him. If he asks why, tell him you want to smoke his weed.

 

Wrong, sorry man.

If it is a friend, they deserve a chance.
Hints don't work, either.
If you are classifying people in your life based on what they have, you have already lost.

 

I hate mooches... They take your shit for granted... Some kid i used to hang out with once left his weed at home just so he could mooch off mine and he would always bring his girlfreind along to smoke my weed as well and always urging me to pack more bowls and how they wernt high and shit... Fuck that bullshit its my weed you hit that bowl and you shut the fuck up, i just pitched you 5 dollars worth of weed pass me a five bill and maybe il pack more weed... Mooches are assholes

 

That sux, I hate moochers. Usually what I do w/ moochers is pretend I don't have anything of what the want so they stop asking me. But since he's a legit friend I would nicely confront him about him, just like ask him why he keeps borrowing stuff all of a sudden. Maybe he doesn't even realize it and just thinks you're being nice or something. I doubt it, but some moochers are so bad they don't even realize what they're doing, or they're just taking advantage of you.

 

Just clarify your boundaries.



Then you know when one has been crossed and you can call him on it easier.

 

dude what does2 said has a lot of legitimacy.

It doesn't seem like hes a mooch; the OP said the behaviors are new, and not everyone openly talks about their probelms. try talk with him, and if he is reluctant to at first, give him time. friends are friends, through good and bad...bare with him

he is your friend, and until there is something that happened that is unforgivable, he is still your friend. and friends put up with shit on occasion.

I suggest COMMUNICATION and patience oh and love

good luck

 

in every relationship, no matter the strength, a lot space can be beneficial

 

I love your sig The Show , thats some funny shit, espeically the baby smokin. Also true to some extent. I hate seeing wookie babies on lots or little kids. Well I hate wookies in general, they should be extinct.

 

My best friend who I hang out with everyday, never buys weed/cigarettes but I'm cool with it, because he literally cannot get money from his dad.

I used to always sortof get pissed off by it, but seeing as how I've been hanging with him for like a year I'm probably just so used to it it doesn't bother me.

 

the rule is simple: Your friend should pitch in.
however, if he doesnt, its up to you to decide how to approach it.

I have several friends who "mooch" off of me, but contribute when capable. I have no problem with that, because I grow my own, meaning i have a relatively large supply of inexpensive weed.

Just dont ask your friends for money. that ruins the whole idea of freedom that most users support. Take a page from burning man, and make it a "gift"

 

This is the best advice so far because I just realized what was going on. His dad is really just a cheap ass mother fucker. But whenever he does get money on the rare occasion he does smoke me up, so I guess I do have no room to complain. I just hate chilling with his cousin so much, but he goes ahead and makes plans anyway.

 

me and my friends are going through the exact same situation.

Our one friend never fucking pitches at our lunch sesh's and always expects to get in for free. He's been cut now from every sesh unless he pitches.

 

^ Thats a douche move, now if he had money and refused to pitch in then that would be acceptable. But weed is a community drug and should be shared with your friends, so I dont think you should be calling him your friend if you can't even give the kid a smoke up.

 

shit in his pillowcase