choosing a side

Discussion in 'Bisexual' started by Rand al'Thor, Nov 27, 2008.

  1. Rand al'Thor

    Rand al'Thor Member

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    I'm just curious if any one else who is attracted to both sexes picked a side and married in to a relationship you knew would be 100% monogomus.

    I've been attracted to both sexes long as can remember, adn experimnented both ways when I was younger, but it came to what i wanted in life....mainly a family with my own kids, and i didnt see that happeing with my old life style.
    The thng is I've distanced myself so far from the other side of myself some people might call me homophobic. no current friends or family, or even my financee knows of my past. its been 4 years since i severed ties with any same sex partner, I even ended a couple of good friend ships over it.
    happy as i am right now, some regret still lingers and I sometimes wonder if I may have screwed myself some how.
     
  2. SoManyDaysSuchLittleTime

    SoManyDaysSuchLittleTime Member

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    Maybe monogamy isn't for you.
    I never really thought about it before, now you're making me wonder if I'll miss the side I leave behind.
     
  3. sarahrei

    sarahrei ~Lover~

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    I'm getting married to a man soon, and I feel ok with knowning that I will never get the chance to sleep with women anymore.
     
  4. KewlDewd66

    KewlDewd66 Member

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    You ought to get to know thyself.

    I am not a monogamous type, and though in a relationship, both my BF and I enjoy sex on the side. We do not own each other and both of us agree that monogamy is a social concept that does not work for us.

    If monogamy works for you, more power to you.

    If it doesn't, face the reality and move on.

    KD
     
  5. jnorton47

    jnorton47 Cosmic Traveler

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    I am attracted to both females and males, but more to females. I have had a few homosexual experiences. Some before I was married and some after. Early on my wife and I would fool around with mfm threesomes where the other guy was open minded enough to go for it. After a few years we cooled it. We have been married for over 38 year and monogamous for most of that time. Yes, I have some regrets, however, the wife and I have such good sex that I would not want to fuck that up. While I would like to have a male playmate, but I will not cheat on her. He would have to be someone that my wife like will enough to be cool with it. She know that I am bisexual, and as long as she did not feel threatened by the relationship she would be okay with it. <(^o^)>
     
  6. ravemyass

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    I'm in a relationship with a guy and we've been together for two years. We are both bisexual. We both like girls and we both like guys. I think this works out perfectly. I don't feel like I need to choose a side and neither does he. We both equally like boys as much as girls and we agreed on being polygamous in a way of going for the same sex. I enjoy being with a bisexual guy more than a straight guy because straight guys always think its so hot to have a bi gf that they always expect a 3some. 3somes are great but since I have a bi bf, we can play it fair:) I'll get into a g/g/b 3-some with him as he can get into a bi- b/b/g 3some with me. ;) I've actually never done that last one before but it would be interesting and perhaps very fun. If you wanna be monogamous, thats good too. But I really don't think same sex relationships should be closed off. I would love to be able to date one guy and date a girl at the same time.
     
  7. Argiope aurantia

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    I can't promise that my marriage will be monogamous, but I am a bisexual female and engaged to a hetero male. We're old friends, to the point that he was the one who helped me understand my own bisexuality. I've actually never had the opportunuty for a female, mostly because while I am attracted to them sexually I cannot make myself feel safe enough around them for sex. I can barely handle women as friends.

    I have told him that if he ever desires another woman and I like her we could try a polygamous relationship. The rules are that I am the dominant female and I get the first offspring. He says that one PMSing woman is enough every month. For now, we're content to point out hot women to each other and laugh at lesbian porn. "Oh, that looked like it tickled. . . "

    There was one woman that we considered as a third partner, but she's a lesbian and won't play with males. Dammit.
     
  8. stayhigh

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    just end up with someone who makes you happy.
     
  9. Vanilla Gorilla

    Vanilla Gorilla Go Ape

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    You can never be 100% sure
     

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