I have always been fascinated by psychedelics and the whole culture surrounding them and have always felt there is something to gain from certian substances if used in the right context. Unfortunately my girlfriend does not see things in the same light as me. It's strange. I have been dating her for over 4 years and we understand each other very well at this point. We have a good relationship and very good communication. It's not that she completely opposes my exploration but she does make me feel like shit about it sometimes and I often find myself hiding things from her. For example, I find myself surfing these forums and a lot of other internet sites about pyschs but when she comes in the room I often close or minimize the site so she doesn't know what I'm doing. That's because she thinks I'm "too obsessed" with drugs and it's something you should "only do once or twice a year" at the most. I try to explain to her that it is something that helps me understand more about myself. She just doesn't see drugs in the same way I do. I really wish she did though. I am no crazy drug experimenter by any means. I mean I probably trip once every two months max (or a little bit more than that if I'm feeling saucey haha). It's just over time I feel myself hiding my passion for psychedelics more and more from her. Please tell me there is someone in the same boat as me. If so, do you find yourself hiding this sort of thing from the significant other. I love the girl but wish she was more open-minded when it comes to this sort of thing....
I hear ya bro. Same boat. My view on it is that if you're adult about it, responsible, and it doesn't make you alienate yourself from her, or from your job, make you spend all your money, get you into trouble, or cause other problems you should be allowed to have your own thing. People in relationships like different things, and need some space to enjoy them. She should respect that. (Afterthought: I obviously don't know her, but it sounds a little like a "control" issue, maybe?)
Man Im actually glad you brought that up. My woman is the same way. Its actually a good thing. Maybe not the whole minimizing. I do that to. As long as you do your part and maintain your particular shamanhood you will be fine. I smoke cannabis daily in moderation. It is definetly not done in front of ceratain peoples and is mostly hidden. Drinking is usually fine and I only smoke cigs when I drink. Salvia can be smoked if the wife goes to bed early for work. When It comes to LSA, mescaline, ar ayahuasca. I need to get out into the woods alone or with someone who likes to trip. But these days at my age no one digs psychedelics especially most wives. psychedelic shamans are of the majority men. Women are more interested in being pretty.
guys... dont be shameful. a woman who makes you shameful is not worth it. she is not your mother. if it gets out of hand then it probably means that the love is growing cold... otherwise, its just a matter of her loving something that you arent. which plenty of people are fine with... but my opinion is that it is not worth it in the long run... because you can end up teaching yourself a lot of bad emotional reactions/sensitivities/insecurities. these might become an issue the next time you go to have a relationship. people who ive seen do this.. they just start keeping more and more from their partners... I mean, do what you want. its not like i actually know your situation or know how all people react but I think if oyu are thinking seriously about your relationships then you gotta consider how much she means to you and how much psychedelics mean to you.. and how much an honest, open, healthy relationship means to you (as opposed to an often fuck and someone around)
I don't think she is controlling. It is more about her being "concerned" for my well-being. She is like most people when it comes to drugs. She views them as a negative thing. And Bill, I hear what you're saying. She never makes me feel shameful about anything..this is really the only issue I have with her lately. It just seems to be bothering me increasingly more. I love this girl and I think she is the "one." Because of this I need her to understand how I feel about it. It's just a lost cause lately... It is relieving to see some guys are in this same type of situation. I mean obviously, a relationship is about sacrafice and doing your own thing. It's her lack of understanding that has been bothering me..
dude i'm in the same boat too. the thing is, she used to drop acid with me (three years ago, when we first started dating). now she thinks psychedelics are harmful, and sometimes even questions if LSD has permanently harmed her. i've recently tried 2c-e and since i try to be honest with her, told her about it. the second time she was obviously irritatted and concerned for my health which is understandable. but it's also frustrating that she doesn't see it from my point of view at all. so i probably won't tell her next time i trip, unless she asks.
Yeah my gf used to smoke pot a lot and now she gets tested at her job so she doesn't smoke at all. She claims she doesn't miss it. And the one time she agreed to trip with me a few years ago I selected morning glory like an asshole. She puked everywhere. I wish that I would've choosen something else because that might have changed the way she feels about psychs..but now she's just wicked close-minded about it...
Thank God I dont have to live a lie in order to make my girlfriend think highly of me. If I were keeping anything from her, I wouldnt call that love, Id call it dependence.
My wife does not understand my passion as a drug geek. To her, all drugs are bad. She refuses to accept the fact that responsible drug use is possible simply because, in her mind, drugs are bad and nothing good can come from them. We have had debates about it that have stretched for hours on end... it's frustrating for both of us, but at the end of the day, we just agree to disagree. I don't hide anything from her, because I don't want to be deceitful. This makes it difficult at times, because she is really good at making me feel guilty for what I do. I've had bad trips because of this. It's difficult for me to walk this path, but it's still worth it. I am dedicated to both my hobby and my wife (despite our differences). If anything, my wife keeps me balanced as I tend to have an addictive personality. I think we are perfect match in that sense. We've been together now for almost 8 years.
