What's the big deal with marriage, I don't like the idea of it at all, I wouldn't mind eventually meeting someone and having kids and the rest but what's with marriage. The average cos og a wedding in Ireland is somewhere between €10,000-€20,000. I mean €20,000 for some people would be a years wages, wwhy waste the money.
it doesn't have to be a big, pretentious ostentatious wedding - small, intimate and not nearly so costly can be just as nice, if not way better. I can see why people would think it outdated, and yeah, I probably agree - yet there is still a part of me that wants to get married one day. I think marriage can be beautiful, something to distinguish that particular relationship from all the others in your life. There's just something lovely about being able to formally promise that you want to spend the rest of your life cherishing and adoring another person, and I know that's idealistic and you don't need marriage to do it, but still,... anyway, meh, i'm waffling. I guess what I'm trying to say is that there is still a romantic part of me the believes in the beauty of a marriage between two people that adore each other, and that I think it's this commitment that is the important part, not the extreme price tag. I think that marriage should be legalised for all types of legal love as well, because it's so rare that you find someone you want to have a fling with, let alone someone to grow old beside and with, so what right do people have to deny that love when it comes around?.
I want to get married one day, but it's not going to be something big. If it had to be big, my boyfriend and I have decided upon a geeky wedding...dress up like computer game characters, have lots of computers and stuff so everyone can game afterwards... *sigh* I kinda hope that's going to happen...
Ok first of all you don't have to spend what you don't want to on a wedding. You can get married for very little if you want. Just depends on your wants and needs. To me having a cerimony is a very special thing. I have been with my guy almost 8 years now and I want there to be a party where we all come together to celebrate finaly coming to be one family. Friends and family alike have waited so long to see it. We are already commited to each other. So why not celebrate it? The wedding is a very small time in your life. there is life the days before and after where the party isn't...and that's life. Some people jsut don't realize what a commitment it is a abuse it like other things. And that makes it stupid.
I don't think it matters. If you love each other that's great, you don't need to prove it to anyone with a piece of paper & a ceremony.
I can go either way, but I'm glad my man married me. And we had a small, intimate ceremony in our own back yard, (which I think is a beautiful, meaningful setting) and we didn't spend alot of money. It's just nice to celebrate your love with your family and friends.
I totally agree onthe wedding thing. If I ever get married I would want to go away and just have whoever I was marrying there. My family would be pissed but to me it is a personal thing not a family affair.
Yeah marriage is a very big step for alot of people and honestly I couldn't just up and marry someone unless I truly loved them, cuz if it's not gonna work from the get-go then there's no sense of wasting time, money, pain, e.c.t. and besides even if it did work out.......hopefully you would really wanna know if the person is for you wether or not you love them so!
it is a family affair because this is your new family you are accepting them into your life and they are accepting you into their lives as part of their family. Of corse its a family affair.
I'm kind of with lynsey on this one. I'd certainly have a party with all my family and friends after the fact, but the exchanging of vows I would want to be private.
It's not the piece of paper, it's the act of consecrating yourself, physically, spiritually and emotionally to another person. Which should never be taken lightly nor should one promise themselves to another without serious consideration. You certainly don't have to get married, but I can tell you this, I worked harder on my marriage than I did any other relationship I've ever had, because I had privately and publicly made those vows. The paper the schmaper, if someone needs a piece of paper to prove to themselves that they're married, they've got bigger issues. The paper is a legality. The heart of a marriage is in the way each person in the relationship approaches the vows they made to each other. If I ever get fall in love in again, and find myself wanting to grow old with someone, I should hope that pledging ourselves to only each other, publicly and privately would be something that they would want as well. Just my 2 cents. Gina.
All the sentimental meaningful feeling stuff aside the importance the powers that be place on the piece of paper makes marriage a neccessary reality. If I want my man to be able to handle my affairs when I die we have to be married, otherwise it would fall to my next of kin. I don't want my family handling that, our relationship isn't solid enough. But, in order for anything I want to be hold legally solid there has to be a paper trail. And, I think that something changes between two people when they get married. It further solidifies their commitment to each other. The force the world to acknowledge that they are a unit that no man should tear asunder. H
That is it exactly. Marriage doesn't have to be expensive. You don't have to include anyone, not even family. My husband and I had a court house wedding. We did not invite anyone. We didn't even tell our parents until after. It was a special moment between the two of us and we didn't feel it was necessary to include anyone. Being married has brought my husband I much closer. Neither of us ever thought we would get married. We did it on a whim. But, it just felt right and it has been the best thing we have done.
id rather have my family then the courthouse but i guess thats jsut me. everyone I can clearly see is different and thats what makes us all special
it might seem to u that it cost alot but when u meet the person that u love (by that i mean everytime u see or hear summin it reminds u of them,ur constantly thinking of them, etc etc etc) u will want that one moment to be the one moment in ur life to be perfect no matter what the cost there are ways out there for it to be a great wedding but also to where it aint so expensive marriage to me is great i gotz the best of both worlds best friend and the love of my life
Aint gettin married...don't like the legal implications. A life insurance policy would do just as well. That and men suck, and they don't even do that well
