Hi ive never posted on the gay forum before but i need to ask you all a question. How do you know if your gay or lesbian or bisexual or what ever? ive has suspicions for a while now that i might be bi but i dont know if this is all just a passing phase or something more permenant! any help appreciated Ellie xxxxx
I love it when I can rightfully get new agie in answering a question. The thing of it is when it comes to where you are sexually I think that if you just listen to your inner self & the clues your body gives you, you will have your answer if you didn't know. It is fairly easy to know what turns you on. It is even more easy to know who you feel like you are falling in love with as that can be just plain debilitating with the weak knees, butterflies in stomach, inability to get that person out of you mind, you know what I mean. If you let your feelings flow, you will know. It can really be as simple as that.
Snowdancer- you've stated in just a few words what would have taken me a whole page to say. Well said. Ahh, the uncertainties of puberty. Going through the physical changes is bad enough, but it's the psychological changes that really start to fuck with your head. New feelings, new experiences, new attitudes towards the world around you. Don't worry. You'll figure it out. Just keep an open mind and go with the flow, and you'll be just fine.
yes open mind is the key. if you're finding it hard to apply a label to your sexually the best thing is to stop trying. eventually you will figure out where your feelings and lie and if that means you're gay/bi/straight then hooray! go with the flow, babe. you'll figure it out. you're only14, you've got a while to go
thanx every one for your help, its given me something to think about...or to not think about as the case may be! thanx elliexxxxxxxxxxx
To be honest, if you're bi you don't have so much to worry about, cuz yr not committing yrself to a polar orientation. Just try bi-ness for a bit, see if you like it. You can get urges all the time which go away after a while. You'll know if it's a phase, because you'll be loathe to act on it. If you're happy enough with the idea of being bi, then you probably are.
