he MAY have cheated....not sure...I need help guys!!

Hello friends! Yes, I am new here, but oh I am just so in need of some good advice right now.
Ahh where to start?!? Ok...well...I have been with the boyfriend for 5 yrs now on and off. Our most recent stint has been 2 months and counting. The reason we broke up the last time was because he left me for another girl. That didn't last, so I took him back...well, just this week I find out he hung out with her again.
And I found this out from a third party, a mutual friend who was with him when he hung out with this girl...and I ask boyfriend if he planned on telling me and he says no....very nice, right? Bahaha

So then I get some texts from another girl who USED to be friends with said girl saying that other girl is bragging about screwing my bf.
Bf denies it happened.

But see, yea, and this is where it gets good...a few years ago he DID cheat on me. With someone else. And HE told me about it, about a week later.

So I'm wondering, if he HaD cheated on me this time, why not tell me? Why tell me before? But not this time?
Please girls (and guys!) I need your help! I'm going absolutely CWAAAZZYY over here!
Thanks!

 

two words:

MEN LIE

he's banging her, don't kid yourself, he doesn't admit it because he wants to have his cake and eat it too....

get rid of him, don't look back....if he could even fathom leaving you for another girl let alone actually doing it, he's not worth your time....I cant believe you even took him back, but i dont hold it against you- love is tricky.

get out there enjoy your life, the right one will eventually come along.

 

i unfortunately agree with mary. you need to look for other ppl. your attached to him. the past 5 years have made u confatable and such. leave him and go socialize met a nother person,

 

On and off relationships suck. If hes cheated on you before and its still on and off id try to let it go. From experience its for the best. Yea it sucks bad for the first week but it gets ALOT better as time goes on....

 

Woman.....such gluttons for punishment.

already cheated on you once? psh....

 

I agree he is cheating on you!

 

has this girl any good reason to lie?
he has done it once, he will do it again, and again, and again.
relationships, will never work without trust.
Do you trust him?

 

Seems to me that since you have taken him back after he screwed up he isn't too worried because he believes you will just let it slide...again.

Past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior...so he cheats, and you take him back....you can either say "hell no" or put up with it. Only you can decide what works for you, but should you decide to accept his infidelities.... as the saying goes "you knew he was a snake and you picked him up anyway"

Think enough of yourself to find someone with a little more integrity...it will serve you better in the long run.

 

There's an old saying, "once bitten, twice shy".
Seriously Honey you got to wake up, take your scissors and cut all the crotches out of his pants and tell the looser to take a hike.
Move on and find yourself a good guy.

 

You shouldn't care if he cheats on you. Free love!! This is a fucking hippie forum!

 

Big Warning Signs! Been on and off for 5 years... left you for another girl... you took him back, cheated on you several years ago, you forgave him and took him back!! Sorry to say, but this guy is not really in love with you for if he was in love he would not trample on your heart! This is a guy who is always looking and thinking the "grass is greener on the other side of the fence... guess I'll graze there for a while.. gee, if its not what I want I can return to my own pasture".

Monroe, you should ditch this guy right away, move on with your life and never look back! I know it hurts to do so... but you are still young and it time, and please take your time, you will find the one for you. Till then just enjoy life!

 

sounds like a D-bag
leave :leaving:

 

He'd tell you, friends and shit talk alot of bullshit. ive dealt with so many simlar stupid accusations. he'd tell you defintly if he told you once

 

i highly doubt that....

 

I know how you feel girl....
you can keep a friendship, but it will never be the same if he cheats..... its supposed to be love, not some broken "vase" that you glued back together....

 

Stop taking him back.

My God, tis not that hard, why do people take back those who betrayed them?

Stop it.

Seriously, stop.