1 month of....

anger, angst, anxiety, and homicidal dreams......


Has anyone ever had to spend a month with an ex??
one that you loathe more than anything in this entire universe?!

How the fuck do you deal with that????

How do you have a decent day when the first face you see in the morning is actually the last face in the world that you'd ever want to see again?

how do you pretend that you want to be around this person even though you want to punch them in the throat and stab their eyes out?!


and how do you do it with dignity and grace??!

I need to know, and I need an attitude adjustment in order to survive this month and maybe even find it somewhat pleasant?

someone slap some sense into me!!

 

its just 1 month
the time will come to an end

 

Why is he even there? Kick his ass out. That sounds awful.

 

Is it a convenience thing? Money thing?

I cannot stand to be around someone that I don't like and to have to live with them is torture.

Are you sleeping in seperate bedrooms?

 

I'm also curious as to why he's there. If its only out of the goodness of your heart I'm with Al Kapwn, kick him out! I have a child with an ex, and I can tell you its still hard enough being civil, even with such a good reason!

If its something out of your control, well, maybe go buy some drugs or something

 

I can't kick him out (as much as I would bask in the glory of doing so) technically it's still his house too, and out of respect for our 2 sons I am allowing him to spend Christmas with us....
so I'll wear my fake smile, and go through the happy little motions hoping that I don't snap...it is only a month, but right now that feels like an eternity.

 

I've done that before too. My ex wouldn't move out, so I had to go back to living with mama and papa.

It's very difficult to have to see someone every single day that you don't like. You could always play little pranks on him. Like clean the toilet out with his toothbrush. And get a giggle while he is brushing his teeth. Nair his head while he sleeps. You know, mischievous little things that bring you humor and make his life hell.....and can be hidden from the sight of your sons

 

The kids don't even know that their parents relationship is over yet, I haven't found a good time to tell our 5 year old (the youngest is only 7 months old) I know that there's never going to be a good time for it, I'm just struggling with what to tell him and how...so my plan, which may be a mistake is to have one last happy holiday together and after Christmas we'll all sit down before justin leaves and discuss it.

 

Ah, there are children and finances involved. Yeah, that happens. Man, I wish I had some kind of brilliant advice for you. Best I can think of is to agree with StarFaerie there: weed and lots of it.

And spend loads of time here, where he isn't but we're all here to empathize with you.

 

thats just mean marie haha

 

Ugh...yeah, that conversation is going to be just awful, huh? Maybe it would be easier if you just killed him.

I kinda like Mariecstasy's advice too. Funny shit.

 

ahahahhahahahhaha, you're so right....the toothbrush in the toilet is classic:cheers2:

thanks marie, that made me smile

 

You gotta learn to play with uncomfortable situations. Slowly drive him nuts.

Super glue his hand to his penis.

I'm glad you smiled. Its a hard situation and you are being a bigger person for allowing him to stay for your children's sake

When have you guys agreed that he has to leave.

 

Marie!

just go on about your day as you normally would. Completely ignore him and anything he does. Its not real easy at first but hell i lived with an ex about a year once before... The only words spoken between us was "dinner is done "

A month aint that long and often times the pissing one off thing backfires leading to more troubles for yourself n that aint never fun...

as for the youngun ,, over the month he or she will notice the seperation of sorts between you and the man type thing by the time the month i s over with he will already have the basic understanding and knowledge that things are different. He may even begin asking his own questions about things, i suggest both being honest about it and reinforcing that it isnt his faulyt and that both still love him and all that jazz...

 

he has to report back to base on the 5th of Jan...

after that he's being moved to a new base and more than likely being sent to Afghanistan...he thinks we shouldn't even tell the kids that we're broken up and to just let them think that daddy's job is the reason he's not there...I say "fuck that" I've never lied to my kids and I'm not about to start now just so he can not feel guilty.

yes we sleep in separate rooms, although I'm sure he's going to try and sneak in my bed a few times throughout this month, he tried gettin in lastnight " I was like wtf are you doing?" and he's like "but I like this bed it's more comfortable"....


I just finished cleaning the toilet with his tooth brush while he was out for his run, he should be back any minute to shower and gear up for the day, hahahaa.....

 

hehehe...I wasn't really serious But makes for humor in times of emotional exhaustion

 

Ah, so there's a natural end point to this. But I definitely agree with you that you should be honest with the kids. He's probably only suggesting the lie because he hopes you can still get back together.

 

he's done stupid shit to me before too, once he saran wrapped the toilet so that when I got home from work at 2am I would pee all over the place- thankfully i didn't fall for it...I did however fall on his tripwire in the hallway....

that's why i dont feel too bad using his toothbrush as toilet brush

 

bloody right on there marie.... i been kinda silly as of late

 

lmfao! Did you really? Thats classic.

Oh mine tried to slip back in my bed as well. YOu could always pretend to get sexual with him and bite his pecker. Or I had a friend put "icy/hot" on someone's penis once.

Ok.....sorry, I am in a rather strange mood today. I like coming up with ways to get revenge. I don't go through with them(most of the time) but it sure is fun to imagine cartoon situations in my mind.

I disagree with lying to them. That is a cowardly way out and the children should know the truth, unless of course there is a chance you might get back together....but if you cleaned the toilet already....i think its a done deal