Girlfriend Moving In

No this is not surprising, but I have seen the majority of relationships of my peers (people 18-25) completely fall apart after moving in with each other. It is emotionally not healthy, imo, to become so dependent and meshed with another person at such a young age. It adds tremendous stress on top of everything else going on in your life and with communication and maturity not exactly at their peak in ones teenage years, it takes two very special people to "make it work". I know that it works for some people, but you are certainly fooling yourself if you think moving in with your spouse at 18 is successful for most, because it is not. Most adults (30+) in today's society cannot hold marriage together, so why would it even be reasonable to believe that a young adult is capable of creating a mutually emotionally enhancing relationship in the context of living with a loved one?

 

She's cute, too. I'd let her eat crackers in bed.

Stella, that was a sensible response and I think you have a good point: 18 is pretty young, and lots of folks don't make it. But hell...as you said, some do. And he's looking for advice on how to help it work - he's clearly already made the decision.

 

Awwwww, you guys are cute! You sound like you've got it together and you really love each other. It's a great start in any case!

 

haha thank you we get that all the time

 

riverside reppin

 

Exactly haha

I've been living with John for 10 months now and it just gets better and better, but we're also very much in love and we're very weird people

 

i agree man...

wait. wait wait wait... you'll be glad yer did

 

my advice is, be honest with her if something bothers you. be open and up front with everything its for the best. when me and my fiance first moved in with one another we were shy with saying what bothered us and all that. and it ended up ending our relationship. we split up for 3 months but then fixed our problems and moved back in with one another. share the responsiblities of keeping the house clean, and dinner and all that. dont expect her to do it because shes the woman. things will be different theres no denying that but you already stated that you knew that. so you've already got yoru head in the right spot. just rememeber shes moving away from her family to live with you and she might get a bit home sick so be there for her and listen to her needs, try to be her best friend as well as her boyfriend. in all relationships it seems as though thats a requirement. but then again also give her some space. blah relationships takke alot of work but in the end there worth it. ive been with my guy for almost 8 years hes the only man ve ever loved and cared for the way that i do. we have our speedbumbs however for the most part we work well together. best of luck to you both, and congrats on the move in together.

 

she is a cutie. and i can tell by the picture that you 2 have a blast whenever you're together. good luck too you

 

Yeah, they seem like a fun couple.

 

exactly. i recommend keeping your shit clean. nothing fuels an argument like a wet towel on the floor, or crafting supplies strewn about in every room. it takes time to get used to on anothers space, and you have to expose your "stuff" slowly.
good luck

 

It's been about 2.5 months since she has moved in. I'm not gonna lie, there was definite growing pains. I'm a messy mofo and left the room dirty a lot, sometimes I act like an asshole when im high, and sometimes we just had genuine disagreements. We fought rarely but when we did fight it was pretty major. But we got over the majority of problems in the first month of living together. These days..have just been simply bliss. We bring our problems to eachothers attention ASAP now. We still have little arguments but thats to be expected. Right now, we are definitely co-dependent on each other. I have been a fairly secretive person about my life but I brought it to the forefront when it was needed, and shes been incredibly understanding. Theres nothing she doesnt know about me and I, for her. I hardly even want to hang out with my other friends anymore and shes the same. Most of the time we rush home from class to be with one another.

Theres nothing quite like opening my door to see my beautiful wifey with a smile plastered to her face at the very sight of me. Even after a year of being together we express our affection for one another as if we were a new couple. I love her with all my heart

I always considered myself to be too much of a unique and hard headed individual to EVER find true love. but i found my love at the young age of 18...i never knew someone could relate to me and accept me so perfectly.

love definitely exists...never stop searching until the reaper calls your name.

 

living with your bf/gf sucks. seriously.