Hi. I used to live with my dad. My mom died from cancer when I was 7. so its just been me and dad all this time. I never got along well with my dad tho. He's a big guy. He works at a construction yard. He drinks a lot of beer, is hairy and tough. You know the type. Im kind of small and girly I guess and it always pissed him off. In high school I met antoher guy. We were friends from sophomore year to graduation. Right before we graduated I was at his house. I used to go there all the time and spend the night. It wasnt anything weird. We were talking about girls kind of half heartedly and then he asked if I ever thought about guys like that. I said maybe. Well, to make a long story short he kept asking me questions about it and one thing lead to another and we kissed. We went to the same college together and our first semester we shared a dorm. we started dating too. I lost my virginity to him. Last Christmas we both headed home for break and we decided to tell our parents that we were seeing eachtoher. I was hesitant but he told me it would be ok. I was really nervous when i got home and my dad could tell. I was going to wait to tell him with my friend but dad kept asking questions. He thought I was flunking out or something. Finally I just told him bluntly that I was gay and I had been seeing this friend of mine. My dad never raised his hand to me in his entire life. He was a big guy and kind of rough but he never really raised his voice or anything like that. When I told him I was gay he slapped me in the face. He's about 8 inches taller than me and probably weighs 100lbs. more so when he slapped me I stumbled across the room. Before I could get up he kicked me in the back with his steel-toed boots then he grabbed me by the hair and dragged me to my feet. He called me a no good faggot and threated to rip my balls off if I didnt man up. then he dragged me to my bedroom, opened the door, and threw me in. I hit my dresser face first and it almost broke my nose. Both of my nostrils were bleeding but i was too afraid to go to the bathroom to get some tissues so i had to use my shirt to stop the bleeding. the next day i called my friend to tell him what happened. before i could say anything he said he needed to talk. he said that he wasnt really gay and he was just experimenting wth me and we better just keep it to ourselves. he told me next semester he would be living in a different dorm. i didnt know what to say. i was absolutely crushed. my dad stopped paying for my college and i had to withdraw. now i work at a shitty store, I make no money, and i probably wont ever amount to anything. My friend is coming back this christmas. his girlfriend is coming to visit. I haven't spoken to him since last year and this is really eating at me. my dad hasn't treated me the same either. i'm really scared. i don't know where my life is going. i think im just fucked
im soo sorry. No offense but if thats how ur dad reacted then he doesnt seam to be caring or loving at all to you and its a shame. hope things look up soon.
I say you convince your dad that your not gay and use him for college. Then come out after you graduate
Absolutely! The moment he beat you he gave away any right to respect and honor that he ever had! Apologize for having gone astray and thank him for getting you back on the right path. You are not demeaning yourself, you're fighting with the only weapons that you have available. As soon as you walk across the stage and receive your diploma, you can announce to the entire audience that you're coming out. Good luck and get the education that he owes you!
There's the old troll I remember Absolutely correct that son of a bitch deserves every ounce of it... If you have to get a cover girlfriend and everything
That's a godawful horrible story. I know it's not really something you can change, but why was it so important to tell your dad? Right away I knew that he wouldn't have taken it well. Also, you weren't at all thinking about your own situation and how you're going to get through life. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your dad, but my general rule is that unless you're one hundred percent sure that he's going to be okay with it, don't tell him. I know this isn't what you want to hear, and isn't what the media would like you to believe, but 'coming out' isn't the most important thing in the world. 'Gay pride' is a big steaming pile of bullshit, it's someone's politics, or a way to sell t-shirts. I agree-- you should talk to him. Get some female friend, bring her over to the house, and tell him she's your girlfriend. Ask him about how to impress her... you don't have to be overly macho, just act like she's really important to you. Honestly, I don't know what goes through kids' heads nowadays where they somehow think that their parents want to know all about their sex lives. My parents still don't know... I keep my distance and don't tell them either way. Maybe you should start doing the same.
