Feminine Issue... need advice please

FYI... not troll. Went cause BF asked me too. Said he was worried. He read your posts and got worried. So I went.

It isnt modern medicine i hate. And to clarify am not afraid of drs. I hate them. There is a difference. Have had bad experiences with them in the past. I also prefer natural ways, less drugs in the body to mess it up. People did fine without all of this machinery and technology and drugs years ago. I prefer not to put poisons and unnatural chemicals in my body. Plus women gave birth fine and still do without drs and just midwives. People today cling too much to modern medicine and chastise those who dont do the same.

It is a life choice just like home schooling or private schooling. Thought this was a hippie site full of people who may understand my views or at least not be so narrow minded and judgemental. 1. I got laid off from my job and have been out of work... thus no money right now and no insurance. 2. New job starts in 3 days which will bring in more income then what I have now. 3. New job doesnt offer health insurance so have to buy my own, which is confusing as hell since ive never had to buy iy before. So I am learning the terminology so I dont get screwed.

So, no, I am not the idiot you all make me sound like. The idiot who has no money, but still wants a baby. It can sometimes take years to get pregnant when you are trying. So we are starting now. If we get one in 9 months, awesome. By that time, Ill have obtained my university degree, and have saved up money, had my job really kick in, and have picked an insurance agency well before then. I just have had the leisure to look for a new one right now. I also wanted opinions as I said as a sounding board so I dont waste 80+ dollars for the doc to tell me it is nothing. If I can talk to an unbiased party, maybe they can help draw up ideas. More heads are better than one sort of deal. (As I stated in my original post, I believe.)

So try not to be so judgemental when someone thinks differently like you or asks for advice. You may not know the whole situation.

Note: I do not mean to sound like I am yelling in any way. Quite the contrary... I am really mellow and calm right now, just typing away. So try not to get too huffy or bent out of shape from reading my post... remember it is just a forum... you can always stop reading my posts if they bug you that much. No one is forcing you to read them

Dont Panic..

 

did you try patching it up with duct tape?

 

Do you not just think it's your body's way of saying slow down? Not being funny but you aren't giving your body time to recover after each miscarriage. You should be waiting at least three months before trying again. But yes I agree with what the rest of the posts say, see a dr and really take the advice of SophieClaire and Frieden.

 

Why don't you wait for awhile before you have a child, like until you've been at your job a year so you can get mat leave?

Children are very expensive and there are lots of hidden costs that you can't plan for. Being out of work is not usually a good idea when you are having a child unless your partner earns very well.

 

First, medical insurance is a bit tricky to decipher, but before you decide to get pregnant make sure you have it. Most insurances have to be in effect for 6 months before they cover the costs. For the record, the costs are outrageous! Ask your parents, or other adults and they can probably help you find a plan that will work for you.

Second, screwing like bunnies will lessen the chance of conception, not increase it. There is a small window of a couple days a month you can conceive. Your best bet is to wait for 3-4 days at a time, that way his semen has time to build up.

Third, you went to the doctor once and they figured out you had PCOS, that's impressive. When I go, it takes weeks to get an ultrasound and what not. Did your doctor discuss treatment options, and how it will affect your fertility? If not, be proactive in your reproductive health and ask questions and do some research through legitimate sources.

Finally, if you are miscarrying, stop trying to get pregnant! Your body needs time to heal and if you continue to try to conceive after miscarrying you will continue to have problems.

In my opinion, as a woman, you really should concentrate on your health for a while. Give your body time to heal, and get the PCOS taken care of. Waiting another year makes a lot more sense than trashing your body by forcing it to do something that it is not ready to do. Hence, the miscarriages, which are your bodies way of saying "not right now, sorry".

 

Not all doctors are horrible and prescribe meds right away. You're generalizing. I personally know of a lot of doctors who do everything to avoid prescribing meds. I look at it this way, you don't know what is going on in your body, so seeking professional advice is needed. A message board isn't really effective. Also, getting pregnant right after you miscarried is not healthy. Your body needs to heal first. Your baby could be born with issues. Also, you THINK you'll receive medical insurance, but everything has been getting cut back because of the current economic status of our country. Also, you should be able to afford a baby before you have one. I wish you the best with whatever you choose, but seeking a doctor is probably the best thing you can do for yourself and your baby. People need to stop fearing doctors.

 

No, they did not "do fine".
Many of them died before age 5.
Go to an old cemetery, look at the dates, do the arithmetic. (The headstones with a single date are the easiest for doing the subtraction.)
Then look at the dates again and note the decrease in single dated headstones as the years get closer to the present.

 

Why don't you go see a naturist medicine doctor? Or try looking for plant-based capsules on the net, taking some plant capsules couldn't hurt in any way. Some teas could do you well too I suppose. You probably have some vitamin deficiency, I heard this might cause problems in such cases. Usually women lose lots of iron and calcium with their period and while pregnant and stuff. But you should also see a real doctor -a trustworthy one... Good luck.

 

This couldn't be more false. There are plenty of people with medical conditions that SHOULD NOT take certain plant based pills. If you have high blood pressure for example has a few herbs that will put you in hosptial.

The fact is that you should NEVER take any kind of herb or plant without seeing the advice of someone who knows about them. Holistic health is just like any other form of medicine, you should never medicate yourself without a second opinion.

 

My thoughts exactly. It's better to have a 2nd opinion that is well educated.

 

I still think this is a Troll, four posts and she's done. And my friends with PCOS took months to figure out, it's not something that you can go to a GP and have them figure it out on the spot.

 

PCOS used to take a long time to diagnose. Since so many people are popping up with it though it's becoming one of those go-to diagnoses. I'd be really careful and get a second opinion. Not to mention there could be past medical history leading to PCOS. We really couldn't know.

Also you should be waiting at least 3 months after a miscarriage. Use protection and let your body heal.

 

I know someone who got pregnant a month after having a miscarriage and her baby was born with significant intellectual disabilities and has body malformations. As for PCOS, I thought I had it. I had to get an ultrasound for any conclusive diagnosis. It turned up negative. I just take BC to control the intense cramps. PCOS takes a series of tests to be properly diagnosed.