Okay, so my sister is 19 & I'm 24 and she thankfully has hot friends. Well she has this one friend whose she's been friends with since first grade. Well now she's grown up & shes gorgeous. But she's also really cool & since I've known her so long she's like a sister to me. Well her and I were going to go pick my sister up at college 4 hours away. So we started talking about that a few weeks ago & then just talked about shit in general. But now my sisters b/f is going, so we decided that we would just hang out, so we just met at starbucks to talk & we spent like 4 hours talking before she was supposed 2 go to a friends birthday party. But I realized that we have the same personalities, beliefs & views on stuff, sense of humor, etc. So when we left she was like 'text me while im at dinner so i can have an excuse to look @ my phone', so i said cool. so later I did & we ended up texting back & forth for the entire time she was @ dinner. Then later she was online & we got talking again for like an hour & towards the end I said it was good 2 see her & all that & she said the same. and then i asked her 2 hang 2morrow but she said she already had plans w/ 1 of her friends. So then i said yeah, if you wanna chill again lemme know. so she said yes & then we kept talking 4 a while & then she said she had to go 2 bed but would text me 2 let me know when she could hang out. So now like it sucks b/c my sister is coming home & she'll be hanging w/ her friend (which she should) but she's gunna get all shitty if I hang w/ her. And it's weird b/c I realized that me & this girl would make an awesome couple, but you know, she's my sisters best friend. So what would you guys do?
I think you should let your sister hang out with the chick while their together. Then you should make another day to personally hang out with the girl you like, then ask her what she thinks of you or whatever. Just kiss her if you can feel that she wants that kind of connection. It really shouldn't bother your sister after that because you and her will know her friend loves you and will want her to be happy. Hopefully at least. Jesus christ, that really reminded me of what im kinda going through right now.
yeah, I agree. let your sister have her time, and you have yours. it may make your sis uncomfortable though, so you should talk to her about it as well. family strife is no fun either. but if you've found someone with whom you make a connection, it would be a crime not to explore it further.
my sister has hot friends but they are all dumbasses... i don't like dumbasses... ye, let her hang out with her friend, that is the whole point of coming over, and ask if she wants to hang with you sometime... good luck.
People do not spend that much time talking if they are not intrested or do not see anything coming out of it. Go for it. If it bothers you that much, I would suggest that you talk to your sister about it. She might be cool with it. I would however give her the time with the friend and take your time when you can. Good luck. This thread requires updates.
i agree, talk to your sister. if you and your sister are close maybe you can ask her if her friend has said anything about you.
Yeah, I'll keep you guys updated. As of now it's still the same w/ if she wants 2 hang she can text me or w/e, & same if I wanna hang w/ her. So we'll see what happens. My sister comes home on Wednesday night from school.
are you and your sister close? if so, i wouldn't see a problem with talking to one of her friends. but if not, i'd talk to your sis about it and tell her you have feelings for her best friend, etc etc... i'd so go for it though.. from what you said, it seems like you guys would make a good couple, so good luck!
Let your sister and her hang out alone, don't hang around. It'll show the girl you're not weird and just want to follow her around now that you decided you like her. ...She's been around for years, I'm reading, so what's a couple more weeks of waiting while being cool. She's also gonna see that you guys have something if you really do... but you gotta give her time to miss you. Don't bug her. She'll come to you. I'm happy for you dude. Its always fun when people/situations like this come up. But whether you like it or not, you have to abide by the rules of the game. I've never really bought in to the philosophy, of "Once in the friend zone, always in it" , but you still need to be very careful not to let yourself get lumped in there. EDIT: Oh, God.... do NOT ask her how she "feels about you". That makes me cringe... It gives her all the power, right then, to take the relationship anywhere she wants. Take control man... You ARE the man.
yes! this is the biggest mistake a guy can make, i know, ive made it and it changes everything, i know that you want to know, but there is plenty of time after you become a couple to ask how she came to the conclusion that you were who she wanted
UPDATE: Well since we first hung out we've continued to talk pretty much on a daily basis, whether it be texting or online. Well we had planned to go christmas shopping together and she had texted me saying that later in the day she could get together with me, so I said sure. Except that it started getting late and I had to be somewhere else so I started going shopping by myself. Well she texts me & was like 'hey ru driving down pearl road b/c i just saw you!" & i was like yeah what ru doing & so we texted back & forth & we planned 2 meet at borders. So we met at borders to do some shopping & i completely found & picked out the gift for her step dad & helped her make some other choices as well. Well while we were there she was talking about how my sister only hangs out w/ her b/f & how she hadn't hung out w/ her yet. And she was asking me questions about my sister and like how our relationship was, which I dunno why. So when we were leaving I asked if she wanted 2 get 2gether later & she said she already had plans but she said I could go 2 Target w/ her but as I said I had to be somewhere else. So we haven't talked since (this was just yesterday), but yeah she goes back to school right after new years, so that sucks. But she said I could go visit at some point, haha, which would be awesome. So yeah, thats the update.
I have been reading and I think he should bang his sister too, DroneLore's a smart man Um but in all seriousness just play it cool
Try not to do like buddy-buddy things with her. Especially at this crucial point of any future relationship you guys may have. She needs to see the "lover" side of you, before she officially declares you a friend in her head. I'm 17... let that solidify or nulliify any of my advice.
Today she randomly texted me & said that i should pick her up from her school (college), hang w/ her, then go visit my sister w/ her & party & then drive her back 2 school & I said that was cool & we talked about planning stuff in the future. So what I want to do is go down a day before we go visit my sister & hang w/ her friend for a day just we can hang 4 a long time before having my sister around. So hopefully that will work out, but I don't expect it to happen for a bit.
