vibrators...advice needed...no really!! lol

have had a bit of a sex drought for a while now...by choice really or rather self imposed through circumstance i suppose. third divorce a few yrs ago (yes we're talking yrs here not mths!!! lol & i am a very sexual person...god damn it!!) so decided to have a little man break...then youngest son diagnosed with autism & my life has for the most part revolved around him & his needs ever since. i just don't have any privacy for myself & his sleep is disturbed too so not exactly conducive to a hot sex life is it????!!

so anyway............
recently decided to buy a vibrator...

don't get me wrong i've still been having orgasms (about twice a day...) don't need a man for that...i have my hands & imagination

but i'm now quite freaked out as i think i might have healed over!!!?? lol i'm just so tight that it won't go in...its like being a virgin all over again...& who wants that especially not at 41 FGS!!!??

i've now bought two in the last few wks...the first one seemed too long & the other looks too thick...i'm like goldilocks...i need to find one thats just right ie does not look scary or like it will hurt me!!??

i was totally turned on when i tried to use them & so was very wet already... so i know i don't need to use lube. never have done. like i say i have a wet pussy...so whats the problem?? why can't i take it so to speak?? if i'm like this with a vibrator beginning to think i will never have sex again...i'll just be a very very horny spinster!!!!

 

Well, from experience vibrators can be enough for most days, hon. But nothing beats a real man for that extra connection that a thing with batteries can never give! As good as my 10 inch moving machine is, it can never beat my boyfriend! =)

 

oh i hear ya sister!!

but right now no time for a r/s really. so before i closed up thought i'd give a vibrator a try...but i can't seem to be able to use it...it blo*dy hurts!!! i did read somewhere once...that after 12 mths you become re-virginised...that might not be true...but it sure feels true right now...IYKWIM!!

 

Your hymen wouldn't reconnect, but wow can you close up.. just buy a small one and work your way up. Your body passed a wonderful child, it will take that vibe. Be stubborn with it

 

You could always get one that you don't put inside you. I'm not an expert on vibrators, but the one I have is a little thing about the size of a lipstick. You don't put it inside ... you put it against your clitoris.

 

sarahrei...

oooooh i don't like pain. total wuss!! so don't want to force it!! but yes a smaller one might do it...fingers & toes crossed...


caliente...

yes the second one i bought had a cute little rabbits face on it (honest ears & all!!) & this bit vibrates separatedly to stimulate your clitoris...that bit works fine....no problems there! its just putting it inside thats the problem! in fact i'm so tight i feel sore two days later from just trying to put it in me...

 

Maybe you could try a smaller one that you put against your clit, and fuck yourself at the same time with one finger, then two, and gradually insert them deeper and deeper. That might help loosen you up some....oooh, that doesn't sound like a bad idea...I might just do that myself!

 

oooooh charise you're a little naughty & graphic too...i like that in a woman!

 

If there's a Spencer's in a mall around you, definitely stop in there.



I have this one, it's only $10 and works marvelously. It's only about five inches long, and pretty narrow.

 

that one looks apeasing!

 

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