I need help with this, however I do not need any harsh comment so please, please, restrain: I met a woman two years ago, she was married 14 years ago, we had a girl and when she was 6 her husband started to be different with her, (she thought it was also her fault, 'cause, they lived at his mom and she was a "bitch" to her, afterwards when they started living alone something "broke" inside of her, then her husband started at that time loking for other "interests" and then He told her that: there is a girl. She accepted that but in some stupid reaction she got pregnant again. She tried to convince him to stay, he did not want to, only when she told him she got a job in the US, they moved over here and for the first 2 years He was still in contact with the other girl, until She called him and said She will not destroy a marriage, She accepted him back because she said she loved him(she was trying to win him over with sex for the last 2 years); Afterwards they lived relatively OK, he was treating her bad but she was (stupidly –her words) happy, Four years later she met me and we started to write to me, we exchanged 9000 emails in two months!! , She told me after some time that she realized, that she like me and she told her husband about it, He insulted her saying that she was a cheater and a whore, He ended in a psych ward because of that ( for two weeks) afterwards He moved out and a week later He was living with another girl. We started "officially" dating, but she was still 'sad or angry', (, that her husband was living with the other girl). I treated her like a princess (her words); for example: He called her when she was driving at night to keep her awake, I cuddled her, I really loved her. After 6 months her husband started showing up with gifts for her kids, and she decided to try again with him; I was really sad; Her husband lied to her saying that He was alone at that time and after two months He told her that they cannot live together, because He is still dating , She called me, telling me she wants to be with me ( I know I know it was stupid that I accepted) , We started living with her kids. They loved me for the very first moment , however after 4 months living together, due to the fact that I asked me almost every day to formalize our relationship ( She was still married) She started feeling again!, something for her husband( that was her explanation), so she contacted him again ,she told him she needs him and He told her that He is alone again, and then she told me that she will try , now officially, to go back to the husband and it would be better for me to move away. I was shocked, her kids too, her faher , sister and friends, however there was something inside of her that pushed to continue in her "project" to be with back with her husband. I left in september, I did not leave any contact for her ( except for the kids, they emailed me and I did back too), I told her I will disconnect his phone, and I did not tell her exactly where I am , even though she asked me the next day I left , by phone, to give her my email and new phone , I told her I will not contact her again so she can "try" again with the husband. She called me a couple of times to my phone, but it's disconnected. Her husband started living with Her the net day, and He brought his mom who was visiting the country, her kids do not like her and she always make problems. Now after all this I have some questions: 1)What did I do wrong( besides going back to her in the first place)?? 2) I sent to the kids gifts for Christmas and sent an email to them saying that I will not contact them again, or until they become adults, so I will move on and they can become a family again, unfortunately it seems that She did not give the gifts to the kids, why? 3) She did not give any explanation for her behavior with the kids, and even though she called me a couple of times as I wrote above, she never wrote a single email apologizing for her behavior, why?? And why she called to my phone??.
Because she's unstable. You picked the wrong girl, hoss. Get over her and try to find someone with fewer issues.
I agree with the above post, I don't know where she's from but she could have cultural pressures on her to make it work with her family. You sound like a stand up dude though, go find a girl that treats you well.
That woman does not know what she wants. Get out of there before you get further caught in the crossfire, you will find someone who loves you for who you are and not loving you for not being their terrible husband. Just dont dwell on her, get out in the world and look.
