I hit her...Need help

I've known her for most of my life. I knew I had anger problems but I never imagined I would/could do this. I need to make it up to her, but she won't even speak to me. Yes I know I'm a monster, enough people have told me. I don't know what I'd do without her. Please, If anyone has been in this stituation, or better, on the receiving end, please help.

 

you're a douche post elsewhere asshole
I would never give someone like you advice you do not deserve it!

 

You should be glad she did not stab you,when you hit her....

 

Fade, I'm sorry that you were immediately confronted by negativity and hostility with your first post.

Anyways, uncontrollable explosive anger is a mental disease, and it can be cured. You have to understand her feelings though, and why she wont talk to you. If you are sincere in your desire to change, and really care about this girl, I suggest you enter some sort of help program or conseling and try to get yourself under control. You don't need to be around her, or anyone else for that matter, until you can contain yourself.

Look at the situation with clear eyes. You understand that the problem is within you, so the first thing you need to do is concentrate on you. Get some help and focus on cleansing yourself of this disease that has the power to engulf your mind.

 

Look into anger management counseling. Was it alcohol related? AA has meeting every day. Work on your problems first before you try to talk to her again.

 

Women beaters should be subjected to immediate castration. I was beaten for two years, how about you do her a favor and stay the fuck out of her life and straighten your fucking head out.


Beware the rath of the victim. She should call the cops on your ass.

 

You don't deserve her.

 

gif totally related

 

Someone asks for help to stop doing the thing you guys hate the most and you react with violence you self. Wow this is a sad world.

 

I'm sorry but he's totally at fault here. He diserves the anger he's getting. What kind of fucking limp dick pansy hits a fucking girl? You get what you give. People hate woman beaters for a fucking reason, cause their fucking pathetic. Just sad little bullies. No anger issues justifies hitting a woman. It's a excuse.

I've got a temper that makes satan jealous but I wouldn't hit someone in anger unless they hit me first, it's called self control and to be honest it ain't that fucking hard to have in this case.

 

Well, your helping me understand how she feels, even if you don't realize it. Thanks.

 

Very understandable but if he can get some help (some sort of counseling) maybe he will stop and maybe he will be able to not teach future children not to.
So buddy get some help other than pass it on on here.

 

You acknowledge that you were at fault and make no excuses - that's a step in the right direction. Get professional help with your anger. As for her - look, better just leave her alone for now. Let the two of you move on with your lives - separately.

Send her a written apology if you must (since she obviously doesn't want to see you), but do not expect her to come back to you anytime soon. Perhaps in time she'll forgive you - and perhaps she never will. If she doesn't (and she probably won't), are you willing to forgive her for not forgiving you?

You will always look back on that moment you hit her with regret. Hopefully that will keep you from hitting people in the future. Are you willing to forgive yourself? Obviously I don't mean it's okay that you hit her. Forgiveness is not about that.

 

get help and channel your anger on some thing else. maybe after you take care of yourself, then you will be able to take care of another person

 

guys be a little more understanding towards him he has a disease him.. he is here asking for help and that's a start Yer!

anyway F00 #4 has given you the advice you need. so TAKE IT.

and love her or not you just don't do this, but it's ok if she facks ya mate in you bed lol

 

It's not a disease. It's a lack of self control. They don't give you a medical treatment for having anger issues they teach you coping stuff.

 

I can understand the anger your getting as I've been in abusive relationships. I do't think people have the right to judge you though. We don't know the full story, your history or anything. People make mistakes and it's good that your admitting you have a problem and wanting to get some help. Follow through with it and that will be the start of making it up to her. Good Luck

 

My grandfather used to be a mean drunk. He would come home and beat the hell out of my grandmother. One day, he beat her up really bad. Grandma had had enough. She called a friend over to help. While grandpa was passed out, her friend sat on his chest. Grandma proceeded to knock all of his teeth out with a hammer. He never hit her again!

Granted, this was 1969 or 70, and people did things differently back then.

 

its great that u know u were wrong. try to get some help. figure out ur issues, why u have anger management problems, ask ur friends, ask ppl who care. and if u really think u need help, go for it.

and seriously, write her a letter. tell her about every damn thing u feel, and what u felt at that point. and be honest. it should help.

 

Counseling.
I so wish I would have called the cops on one of my exes and left his sorry clown looking ass.