Should I go stay with my sis in Texas?

My married sis is in town and has invited me to come stay with her in The Woodlands, Texas to see if there are better job opportunities there than here in smalltown, alabama and to help out with the kids.
I'm excited for a change, and I think it might do me good if I can actually find a good job there. I'd like to clean houses, and she says almost everyone in their community gets their house cleaned.
But.....
I think I'd miss my family. I'm living at home now, with my parents and my other sister. I'm very comfortable, very independent here and don't quite know what to expect over there.
It's TEXAS. Don't they hate hippies and gays there?

My bro in law is a weird guy. He's been good to my sis, provided her a lot of money and been a good father to their kids. But he's... controlling in a way. I don't know if I could deal with watching him talk to her the way he did when they were here yesterday. See, me and our other sis invited her to go to a concert with us tomorrow night while she's in town. She really likes this band and we haven't done anything together as sisters in awhile. She had originally decided not to go when we asked her, because she says the baby only goes to sleep for her, it would be hard on her hub, and she didn't want him to have to get up in the middle of the night (after the concert ended) to come pick her up. No need for that, we told her. We'll pick you up and drop you off at the hotel. So she asked him if that was okay, if he could put the baby down that night too, and he looked real annoyed.

She asked him if he had work to do, and he kind of avoided the question and said, "you made a decision when you said you didn't want to go, so I made plans around that. YOU made the decision."

"But that was before I knew they could give me a ride" she says.

"But you made a decision. I didn't have a problem with it before when you said you wanted to go, but you made a decision and decided not to."

"Okay," my sis says. "It's okay."

He says: "Well, I just don't want this to be on me. YOU made the decision."

I mean, couldn't he have compromised and done something nice for his wife?

Anyway, I have to let them know before tomorrow. I'm terrible at making decisions. I don't want to regret this. But I don't want to regret not doing it if it could be good for me. Also, if I leave with them tomorrow, I'll have to skip the fam christmas party with my grandparents and cousins. I will see my grandparents on Monday, and I wasn't sure I wanted to go to the party anyway. But still... I just don't know. If I hate it I can always come back, but I don't want it to be a dud trip, and dissappoint everybody.
Can anyone give me some advice?

 

Don't do it.

You would end up being your sister's bitch watching her kids and that could get old FAST. Also if you aren't too keen on her hubby now it could get worse. He could get annoyed with you living with them and then fighting could start happening.

If things seem good over in Alabama then stay...

What is really driving you to go? I mean re-read your post and you didn't give much reason as to why you do want to go...

Are you bored where you are now?

 

I have a friend that lives in the Woodlands, it's supposed to be really nice.
And lots of jobs. It's Houston. You could probably find something a lot better paying than cleaning houses, then get your own place. I say go for it. Change is good.
If you don't like it you can always move back.

 

I don't think she would make me her bitch. I really like the kids and I need some responsibility in my life. She really cares about them and wouldn't want me to start parenting them (not that I could anyway), just to babysit once in awhile so she and the hub could spend time together. She works way too hard and could probably use my help. What's driving me to go I suppose is the fact that I seem to be wasting away here and I kind of miss my sis.
She seems to care about me. She went through similar stuff with my parents and we're both suffering the mental effects of it, only she's doing a bit better thanks to therapy. I guess I could have someone to talk to. Not that I can't talk to my sister here, but this sis has a different perspective.
I hope he wouldn't get annoyed with me living there, it was both their idea to try and help me.

 

I live in Houston. The woodlands is really yuppie and suburban. Soccer moms and white collar dads with 2.5 kids and a dog.
Blah. They are rich white spoiled people. I say come, and get your shit in line and move closer to the city. Its awesome here.
We're still recovering from ike some, but its pretty much finished.
Lots of jobs, lots of good weed..

 

You pretty much described my sis's family, Hilder. That's why I figure I could make good money cleaning houses. There's a lot more demand for that there than here.

I just wish I didn't have to make the decision to go RIGHT NOW, but I'm not in much of a position to choose when I go since I don't make any money now and don't have a car. I have to go when it's convenient for others. And I understand that.

 

well, Yeah, there is always demand for house cleaners, but the pay is shit and they expect too much. You'd have more fun working at the starbucks at every 3rd corner.

 

OOooooo...Starbucks. I want a free carmel macchiato

 

They would never hire me at Starbucks. I'm too quiet.

 

then a barnes and nobles.

 

Your sister realizes you’re getting too comfortable living at home and if you don’t get out soon you’ll get stuck in a rut.

She’s motivated only by love, not a desire to make you her bitch

But If you're interested in becoming someone's bitch, I have plenty of room and you can start by shoveling the driveway, I got 11 inches of snow overnight and it wouldn't take you more than 1 1/2 hours


Hotwater

 

Exactly.

We have a BAM here. But I have a hard enough time getting a job here at home. It'd probably be just as bad there.
It has to do with my depersonalization issues and the mental crap my parents put us through that I was talking about earlier. I feel with my sister's encouragement it might be easier, but who knows.
I want to work for myself pretty much, I don't have to make a lot of money, but people keep telling me to get a normal job. I guarantee if I did that I would quit in a few days.

I don't even have to try to get a job there if I don't want to. I can just visit. But I sort of wanted it to be a productive trip.

Gah. I don't think I will go.

 

Texas isn't all that bad (come on, I live here), but you'll never know if you don't give it a shot. Nothing says you can't go home if you don't like it.

 

Texas is fucking awesome. More liberal than most think.

 

I say come, I live in Katy it's a lil suburb west of Houston, so close I we still pay city taxes. Anyways I say go for it and if it doesn't work out just go back to bama. What do you have to lose?! I agree with Hilder tho see if you can work closer to the city, a bit more jobs in that area.

My $.02

 

I really appreciate all you guys responses.

 

Go, doooo ittttt!

Embrace change

 

She just called, and I told her no. She told me I could change my mind though, if I wanted to. I feel so wishy-washy. I honestly don't know what I want.
My parents raised me not to think for myself. So now that I have to, I don't know how to.

 

hahahaha. you say its 'TEXAS' like its different from 'ALABAMA'. Hahaha. I dont know if it is, but in my Canadian perspective it aint

 

You do make a point there, Cate. I guess it wouldn't be THAT different.