how can i kindly get her to get rid of me?

hey guys, I have been dating this girl for about 2-3 months and i realize that we are not right for each other.. At first she was so sweet and i couldnt get enough of her even though our tastes in music and humor and such were night and day from each other.. but lately it seems that she is sorta getting sorta clingy and i think that there are other girls with my same interests and sense of humor out there that would be better for me...

Now i cannot simply dump her because she has been going through a lot with her parents and i have been there for her the past 3 months, letting her cry on my shoulder and everything.. And also its the holiday season so i couldnt just get rid of her.. i really do not want to hurt her, thats why i want her to get rid of me.. She likes me a lot more than i like her i feels..

ok this might sound really mean but ive been slowly trying for her to get rid of me.. First of all she doesnt like my friends at all, so ive been calling her while ive been hanging out with them and they are in the background yelling things like "pass the bong" and stuff like that and she knows i used to smoke a lot of pot but i dont really anymore... also i can tell when she is mad at me because she gets really quiet and answers all my questions with one word answers, and when i see this for some reason i start asking her tons of questions...

But these little things i have been doing do not seem to be working..

How do you guys think i can have her get rid of me, so that i dont make her feel bad? I wanna be dumped..

 

I think that you are being a creep for leading her on.

Its time for you to man up and tell the truth to this woman.

 

I agree.
I think you need to just tell her the truth.
It's never easy to hurt someone.
But it's better than leading her on.

 

like the other posters say its far better to tell her instead of playing games.
just tell her you don't think you are that suited for each other after all...truth is always best in the long run. believe me i've dumped a few guys in my time! then you are free to meet someone more suited to you & your gf will be too.
good luck!!

 

Just have sex with her sister or mom.


works everytime

 

ahh you guys are right! it took me a joint and an article i found online to realize that im doing a bad thing.. it might take a week or two to figure out a good way to end it but im going to asap.. i shouldnt waste her time she could be spending with another guy better for her.. well thanks for the advice guys..

any ideas on how i approach this? ill probably tell her its me and not her?

 

cliché, but it works.

 

Its not her, its not you, its just a bad pairing.
Peanut butter and tequilla, both good things, but together, not good.

 

Be honest with her. That 'it's not you it's me' thing always really means 'it's you, not me' so just say that she's a nice chick but you guys are too different and you don't think it's going to work.

 

tell her you have herpes, bet that'll get her to get rid of you in a hurry

 

Or that your married

 

tell her u like her but...the truth dont lie...lies make it worse. tell her ur pregnant lol
but be sincere it will be hard for both of you.

 

ok i think this is it. it wasnt something i did, but perhaps the lack of something i did.

Its weird, like 3 weeks ago i told her that i had plans on new years eve to hang out with some friends of mine and drink.. this is because she doesnt drink at all and gets mad when i drink, but she said she was fine with it.. So i gave her a call at midnight and i thought i was doing fine containing my alcohol but after about 5 mins on the phone with me she said she had to go and i said "alright, bye. happy new years" and she just hung up the phone...

so i let it go and continued to party and this morning i called her and she didnt pick up, i sent her a text 20 mins later and said "hey u wanna go out to eat tonight and to a movie?".. no answer.. so 2 hours later i called again... no answer.. idk if shes pissed or not because i dont remember what we were talking about on the phone but i know i wasnt being stupid.

So what do u guys think? was i an asshole for partying with my friends on new years instead of being sober with her and her 1 friend? I told her about 3 weeks in advance of my plans.. And i invited her to come but i told her i would be having a few drinks and so would everyone else.

New years was fun though... HAPPY NEW YEAR!

 

Well, you pissed her off enough for her to stop being clingy. So why would you try to 'fix things' when this is exactly what you wanted? Just text her and say something like "Goodbye, it's been fun" and if she decides that NOW she wants to stop ignoring you by texting/calling back then block her. See how she likes it.
And no your not an asshole for having fun. You only live once, and for Christ sakes you told her about it so she should suck it up.