HELP!!! I'm being blackmailed!

I am a pre-surgery transgendered FTM and I have a HUGE problem. I'm in a local band here in town and I've lived my life pre-surgery for a little over a decade. Sure I get the ocassional stupidity from people ("is that a guy or a girl?" bullshit) but for the most part I pass very damn well. I know how to work my charm and seem to attrack a lot of women, even more than any male I know. As soon as I met my guitarists sister I knew I'd be in trouble because not only is she hot, but she was also very attracted to me. Eventually we got together and dated for a few until I finally worked up the courage of letting her know about my situation. I made it very clear to her and made her promise not to ever say a thing to anyone even if we ever broke up and ended up pissed at each other for some reason.
The situation was a little difficult because before her and I got together she was already in a relationship, and she started cheating on that guy with me. After she broke up with him, her and I made it official. One thing led to the other and once she was comfortable with my body we engaged in sexual acts.
One day she breaks up with me because of a certain comment I "supposedly" said to her brother which was that I had already "been there, done that" with her. NOT TRUE. It never happened, it was actually the brother who not knowing about the REAL me, started having problems with the fact that I was with his sister. The crybaby went home and told mommy. Their mom calls me and starts rambling on how she cares about the family and how she doesn't think we should be together and so on and so forth. Whatever.
We end up on bad terms and later decide to just stay away from each other and not ever speak again. Having done so would've affected the band, so we chose to do it that way. Its been months since we don't speak. HERE'S THE PROBLEM: One night she calls me out the blue telling me she really needs to speak to me. She was in rage. Telling me that I "better" clear things up with her brother and her mom because she's sick and tired of them calling her a whore for having being with me. That I better speak to them and let them know we DIDN'T have sex so they would get off her ass. In her exact words she stated this: "You have 2 weeks to clear things up, and I better hear it from one of them because if you DON'T I'm gunna tell them what the f@#% you are!"


I'm freaking the hell out. I can't have that guy know about me. Or the rest of the guys for that matter. Its gunna screw everything up. WHAT THE HELL DO I DO????? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

- Freaked!

 

I am a fully feminized (female hormones, facial feminization surgery, breast implants, etc.) male to female pre-op transwoman, and I easily pass as a beautiful feminine woman, and most of the people who know me know I am a transexual woman.
Of course my man knows it, and my ex-wife, and my daughters, and other close friends and family members.
Others, if I have developed a close relationship with them, I let them know that I am a translady. I have not gotten a bad time from anyone about it that I have told about it.
In fact, most people compliment me on how well I have transitioned, and how I am a beautiful, feminine lady.

Why would you not let people know? Especially people you know and work with? Do you believe they are bigots against transexual people? Do you believe they would end your friendship or working relationship? You mean the guys in your band don't know? Or that other guy?
If you take them aside and explain that you have some serious adult things to discuss as mature grown-up people discuss things, and then make it known to them, they might just accept it. If they don't, then maybe you need to find other people who are more progressive, tolerant, and accepting.
But you haven't even given them a chance, who knows they might be more tolerant than you believe they are? Either way, it could be a relief for you to finally deal with them truthfully in regards to this issue of yours.

You also need to ask yourself, do you really love this lady, and is she compatible with you. Is she worth going through this with her, and why did she get so upset with you. Maybe she needed to explain to people also. Or maybe you could meet a lady who can deal with a person like you better, who doesn't have any problems being with a transperson.

 

Just try to clear it up.If that doesn't work,all you can do really if come clean with your band mates.